How would you discipline a five year old ?

Question

He has been very mean lately.He has shown many violent behaviors towards his 3 yr. old brother.He tried to choke him and he has just been so mean lately.

I don't understand why he is behaving this way.Please tell me what would you do?

serious answers only please and thank you.

Answer 1

Time out, make him stand in the corner for 1 minute per age, and when he comes out tell him why he was in there, and make him apologize to his brother, if he refuses then make him stand in time out again until he does, you need to stay calm but be firm, kids need discipline in a good manner

Answer 2

What has changed in his life?  What is he watching on television?  What kind of video games is he playing?  Who has been violent towards him?  This isn't just a simple case of discipline, he needs counseling.

Answer 3

tell him that he doesnt need to be so mean, and the next time his is bad, spank him and punish him, by not letting him watch tv or something.

Answer 4

I would have him take responsibility for his actions, so as to learn how his choices are affecting him and others around him.  

If he hurts someone, or tries to hurt someone, he needs to make amends, help fix the hurt he caused, help the person deal with the changes in their life due to the injury.  

If he continues to do it, he's showing that he cannot be trusted to know how to behave in situations with other people unsupervised.   Sounds like he has to go back a step on his journey to independent living.  Back to being supervised by an adult at all times.  And, back to mom & dad teaching him the things that they thought he already knew re: behaving politely & empathetically towards others.  Back to role playing, role modeling, discussion & supervised experimentation until he shows he's ready to try some independence again.

Answer 5

tell him thats his brother that loves him, and take something he loves away. i have similar problems with 4yo i take his wrestlers away and sometimes nickalodeon. it seem to work for a little while.

Answer 6

*spank* *spank*  done

Answer 7

Oh.. I feel for you. It was similar, but in reverse my 3 yr would beat my 6 yr.

Is there something going on to make his behavior change so suddenly? What's different in your home. Maybe dad's on trip, mom went back to work, is something in the daily routine different?

I started this about a year ago...

First I take the brat to their bedroom to discuss privately these matters. I get down to eye level with the culprit and tell them how mean that behavior  is. I tell her (mine are girls) that we don't treat each other that way in our home. We love each other and we treat each other with respect! I use a very stern voice and I squint my eyes. I say now you know what you need to do... you have to go and apologize to your big sister. Then I take her to her sister and she says I'm sorry, the other child has to say "I accept your apology". Usually all is forgiven. Most times I keep them separated still for a little bit I tell her "when you are ready to be nice you may come back and play."

The first couple months this was just an exercise. My daughter didn't seem to really mean the apology (I'd tell to say it like she means it and she'd say it again in a better way). I started doubting myself and then all of a sudden she stared saying it with feeling and when I say you know what you have to do she would just go. She seems to really mean it now (she's almost 5). I tell my girls quite often (brainwash them while they're young) that they'll never have a better friend then their sister and that friends will come and go, but sisters are forever. I think that  all this possitive talking to them about each other has brought some quietness in the house. My one daughter has completely stopped pulling handfull of hair out of the other childs head and punching her (she was a wild beast). This REALLY worked for me, but its a long term commitment (I really don't think there are and quick bandaids for behavior)

Good luck... start now and maybe they'll grow up and take care of each other out in this cruel world.

Answer 8

put him in a time out and tell him why he's in the time out when he does the mean things. then after the time out make him apologize to his brother.

keep doing that until he learns he's not going to get away with it.

Answer 9

Put Him in his room and tell the doctor.

Answer 10

Just put your foot down and tell him you won't take it anymore. I was a real brat when I was four and I would get spanked or yelled at. but what got to me the most was when i got stuff taken away, especially the tv I loved to watch it all the time and when I couldnt it was torture.so just try taking something away or when your at the store and he asks for something say no because he was bad.

Answer 11

That is tough. I have a 5 year old son who is mean to his 1 year old sister! He can be so sweet and then he turns into a monster.. I think he is jealous because his sister gets so much attention.. We dont mean it to be that way but babies are so demanding! I have been trying to spend more time with my son and reward his good behavior.

When he is bad I put him in his room to think about what he has done. We also take away TV and computer. I have tried spanking and he seems more violent after we spank.

Hope this helps!