How would you feel about a wedding on New Year's Eve?

Question

Is this too crazy, too much around the holidays?

I was very close to my grandmother and her wedding was on NYE. I think it's a wonderful symbol of starting a new life together. However, she also happened to die on NYE, so I wonder if it would be too much for my family.

Thoughts?

Answer 1

she has left her mark on that day...in 2 ways. leave yours on another! what about christmas eve?

Answer 2

I don't know about this one.

On one hand it is a great symbol...for you and your husband.  But for others...well, no one really cares (not saying that to be mean but brides need to realize that no one cares about their wedding details other than them..a lesson I'm learning myself).

To ask people to change their NYE plans for you is a little much BUT it could also make for a fabulous party and what a great way to ring in the new year.

If I were to do this, and again this is me, I would invite only my family.  We normally spend NYE together anyway so it won't be odd to celebrate all together again.  Friends would most likely want to spend the holiday with their families so it would be harder to get them to come to your wedding.

And be prepared for the costs as everything will be triple the amount.

Answer 3

As a rule of thumb....I hate holiday weddings.  Be it Memorial Day, Labor day, the fourth of July, or NYE.  

I think it is incredibly presumptious of the bride and groom to assume that the guests will jump at the chance to drop any plans they had and go ga-ga for your event.

If you do a NYE wedding it had best be the most full on incredibly well done unforgettable event in history.

I understand the symoblism of the date for you, but really I'd pick another day.

Answer 4

Have your wedding day on a day that will be special for you and your fiance.  If you will enjoy celebrating your anniversary every year on New Years Eve, and if that date means something to you, by all means, go for it.  It's your wedding.  However, an alternative that might be more cost effective would be to have a New Years Day wedding to signify new beginnings.

Answer 5

It sounds like a wonderful way to honor your grandmother.

Answer 6

go for it - I've done weddings on Christmas day and NYD - both were awesome family events.

Answer 7

I was in a wedding on NYE and it was beautiful and a ton of fun.  I think that it is a huge testament to your grandma that you are considering having your wedding on her anniversary - I think yout family would feel the same...

Good luck!

Something you may want to consider.... your anniversary will always be that day and it might make it hard to celebrate your anniversary seperate from the holiday...

Answer 8

Some people will be annoyed and some won't care. Hopefully they don't have other plans already or cancel any of their own traditions for the holiday. If it's what you really want...then do it. Talk to close family members on how they feel about the anniversary of your Grandma's death, see how they feel.

Answer 9

What an absolutely great idea. New year's eve is such a special time and you can make it even more special!

Answer 10

One thing to think about are the guests that are invited.  Would they enjoy a wedding on NYE?  I had mine over Labor Day Weekend and alot of my family goes camping that weekend and some were not happy that they had to go to a wedding on their holiday weekend.  If your grandmother also died on that day, it might be too much for everyone, maybe consider her birthday or something like that if that is an option.

Answer 11

I wouldn't suggest piggy-backing any holiday. Too much pressure for guests, wallets and venues.

Answer 12

I had the same dilemma so I polled my close friends and immediate family members.  And to be honest with you most of them said it's rude to my guests.  That is a night that people want to have their own new beginning celebrations not celebrate my nuptials. 85% said it was inconsiderate to my guests.  A few of them thought it was a bad idea to do it on the same day my grandfather passed away the previous year.  I was hurt b/c I REALLY wanted a NYE wedding.  In the end it didn't happen that way.  ):

Answer 13

Ask your family. I think it would be a wonderful memory. Also, an FYI - please have the wedding earlier in the day.  That lets the folks who don't want to be out on the streets on NY eve (due to drunks) get home safely, while those who may have longstanding attendance at midnight parties to go to those as well.  

Also, contrary to other posters, I know 2 people who married on NY's eve (one in the a.m., one in the evening) and virtually everybody invited came.  After all, you ARE family and you're footing the bill for the NY eve party!  What's to complain about?  I wouldn't worry too much about the people who wouldn't attend - they probably aren't that close to you in the first place.  

My wedding is going to be during the week between Christmas and New Years soley because a lot of out-of-towners will already be here.  If you want to get married this year, you can usually find space even now if you have a wedding early in the day.

Anie - it's a shame you allowed your family and friends to kick at your enthusiasm for a preferred date.

Answer 14

if all your guests are young single people with loads of money and live in your town  and dont have to drive anywhere to get home that night and have nothing else to do this is great.    for anyone else it is an imposition.  

i agree with posters who caution everything will be 3 times as costly, many people have issues with going out that night and prefer to celebrate in their own homes or with neighbors because of the driving issue, and, you are planning to have a party that lasts until after midnight, again, it would be extra costly.  and it is the week after christmas with all the activity of that time of year thrown in,  

we are invited to a family wedding jan 2.  every person in our family has to travel to this wedding and rent rooms.  the costs are staggering just to get there.  are people annoyed?  yes.   now it comes back to us that the bride declared when people pointed out it was a holiday weekend and a huge imposition to expect people  to attend that she didnt care about the trouble anyone else had to go to.  i personally think weddings are great on any weekends but major holidays.  i think this trend to make people have to reschedule entire vacations around weddings on holiday weekends is just not so great.

i once had to postone a winter vacation at huge expense to attend a wedding right after christmas.  i still get annoyed thinking about it.  two years ago we went to a wedding the night before new years in a city 5 hours from our home.  it took us almost 10 hours to get there as it was the weekend and every person in the city was on the road and it was miserable.  

i attend more weddings than most people so i feel pretty strongly about scheduling weddings on ones very own weekend with nothing else major on the calendar.

Answer 15

I saw a wedding like this on TV and it looked like SO MUCH FUN!!

The couple and their guest rang in the new year at the reception and everyone looked like they were having a blast and this way you can give your family something to celebrate on NYE and not grieve!!

Answer 16

I think it sounds great.  

My husband and I are getting married away from home and the majority of our friends can't afford to travel to the wedding.  WE thought we would have a reception on N.Y.E.  I figure most people are looking for something fun to do, and what is more fun then celebrating a wedding with your friends.

As far as the family goes, you would know them better then I.  

Maybe you could ask around and get the general feel of your family on the matter.  But you need to remember that, as in any family, there are bound to be a few 'difficult' people, who won't be happy no matter what you do.  

You need to decide what is best for yourself and your fiance.

Answer 17

I think it is a beautiful idea to share your wedding anniversary with your grandmother, may she rest in peace.  I think that is a very sweet sentiment that will be appreciated.  It might make your ceremony more emotional, but that is OK, it is a wedding, not a meeting!  

I went to a wedding on NYE 2007, and even though it was odd to go to a wedding on a Tuesday or whatever it was, it was neat that everyone had the next day off - it felt like a weekend - the place was FILLED TO THE BRIM!  They had the champagne toast at midnight (special permission to keep the hall that long), and it was a wonderful, VERY beautiful wedding.  They had a bus for people that came from the small town where they grew up, there were so many people!  The Christmas trees were still up and it was the most gorgeous wedding I've ever been to, probably.

Your family probably celebrates NYE even though she died that day, so why not celebrate NYE with your wedding?  I think you can do special things to remember her, and those don't have to be SAD or tragic things - but a bouquet of her favorite flowers, or her wedding colors, or whatever you think is special - I think that is a beautiful idea!

Best wishes!

Answer 18

she died on her anniversary?thats romantic,i hope i die on mine,too!(a loooong time from now,tho.) i think a wedding is a gr8 way to start a new year,go 4 it !!!!!!

Answer 19

The best wedding I ever went to (besides my own) was an NYE wedding.  However, it was local, and I probably wouldn't have gone if I would have had to travel -- it's just too much to ask around the holidays.

Answer 20

I have been to 2 weddings on New Year's Eve and I loved both of them!  It would be a nice way to honor and remember your grandmother also.

Answer 21

I wanted to get married on NYE, but it was to close (we only had two months to plan our wedding). Instead we were married on New Years Day. If you want to get married on NYE it has to be planned at least a year (sometimes two years) in advance. It's a little hard to pull off and can be more expensive at times, but if it's what you and your fiance want I would say go for it. Best of luck

Answer 22

It's obviously a significant date for your family. I think your grandmother would have approved. It would help your family think fondly about NYE instead of remembering it as the anniversary of your GM's death.

Personally, I think it's quite fitting.

Answer 23

I wouldn't go. I have a huge family things on holidays and that's a big one!

Answer 24

I think that is the perfect time to get married, go for it

Answer 25

fine to me.

Answer 26

i think that would be a wonderful idea. its a great way to start off the year, too!

I just maybe the best holiday to hold a wedding.

however keep in mind who you are inviting... what do most of the guests do on new years eve? if a big part of the family always gets together and gos out ask your-self if you think they are willing to change that

other than that its a great idea and i think you should go with it.