How would you feel about this?

Question

My FH is one of the most sweet and loving guys I know, but tonight when talking to him over the phone we brought up a recent case in our area where a man killed a man trying to hijack his car. We were discussing how we felt we would react in a similar them-or-me situation, and he said, "The thought of killing someone really doesn't bother me all that much."

I was completely shocked. I would have a great deal of trouble with it because I'm the empathetic/sympathetic type. I asked him how he could be okay with it, and he said, "It wouldn't be different than killing any other animal."

How would you feel about this? I know he's not a psycho, and wouldn't go and kill anyone, but his answers leave me a little chilled.

Answer 1

I hate to say it, but a lot of guys are just like that.  I think a lot of men would say the same thing in the same situation, if they or someone they cared about were being threatened.  It's like their primal urge.

My dad, brother and FH have all said similar things. Like, "If someone tried to hurt you, I'd kill him."

Answer 2

I would find out how he felt in other situations, like if it wasn't life or death. Frankly, I think if you value life, then you should value your own as well. Laying down your life in order not to hurt someone else is just kind of stupid.

At any rate, I would definitely find out how he feels about killing in other situations. But, since it probably won't ever be an issue, I doubt I'd worry about it much. As long as he really isn't a psychopath, like you say.

Honestly, I'd be more worried if he didn't want to stand up for himself or loved ones in a truly bad situation like that.

Answer 3

Just take it as a guy thing. My hubby is a giant sweetie, but guys just seem to get a thrill out of killing things, be they on video games, war movies, or hunting.  It is just the way they are wired.

Answer 4

My husband prolly woulda said the same thing. But then again, he IS in the marines.

Just because he said that doesn't mean he is going to kill. Its just that if worse comes to worse, he WOULD. Like if someone was hijacking your car he would have no problem laying the smackdown on them.

Don't worry about it. People are different. I could never kill another person, but sometimes in situations it is nice to have someone around who wouldn't mind defending themselves/you even if it meant death to the criminal.

Answer 5

I honestly feel the same way he does.

I am the type of personal who is able to detach my emotions from anything. I've never killed anyone, I don't plan on killing anyone, it is just how I handle my own emotions.

Also, no one can honestly say how they would react to something until it happens. He more than likely, wouldn't handle it as well as he thinks.

Answer 6

my hubby has always said that he thinks he'd make a great gun for hire! and he has always said that if anyone hurt someone close to him he wouldn't trust the courts for justice, he'd take care of business himself.  i think they all say similar things sweetie so i wouldn't worry about it too much at all.