How would you feel if people tell you to get over your problems?

Question

If you are going through something, and other people are telling you to get over it. But the fact is that they have no idea what you are going through?

What will your reaction be? And will you tell them to **** off, and try to wear your shoes, and wear it the same way you do?

Answer 1

I'd smile at them, thank them sweetly for their advice, turn around and wish i could have punched them in the face.

Answer 2

T%hat would depend on the situation, because if they are serious I wouldn't be really offended. But if they were jerks about it, I would probably get very angry.

Most of the time, I just angrily walk away or go talk to someone else.  

Answer 3

If someone told me to get over my problems, I would think it rude and uncaring.  I have learned that most people don't want to listen to problems, they want to share idle time to entertain themselves and distract themselves from problems. I respect that most people have problems of their own and I don't expect them to wear my problems but being compassionate and kind to one another is a value that makes friendships meaningful. A true friendship is rare and special.

The other issue that disturbs me just a little is the content of movies, some movies have vivid and horrific story lines and thousands of people flock to watch them yet the same people can't handle a personal conversation about themselves, what's that about?  It's really weird that fantasy and distraction has become the menu when reality is and should be more meaningful.  Just my observation of people.

There are a few people here on Yahoo that have serious problems and I try to be understanding.  I may recommend that they try to "let go" of issues that have the potential to cause them more harm but I would never tell them to "get over it".  For example, when a person has been violated or harmed, they are reacting to someones actions.  When the victim harbor's hate for a long period of time or feels they need to seek revenge, then their own actions have the potential to harm them more.  "Letting go" allows a person to move forward to heal and lead a healthy life.

Peace Be Still

Answer 4

It doesn't happen to me cos a long time ago I learned to solve them by myself - thus depriving folk of the opportunity to say it!

But, I suppose, you would probably expect me to say that cos I'm old.

Until someone has walked the same path as you they are not really in any position whatsover to comment. Best wishes. UK