How would you feel if someone you love and respect turned out to be someone not worth that respect? ?

Question

I don't see my dad very often, maybe a couple of weeks a year and I've always loved him. He always told me that when my mum and him got divorced, he gave us the house to live in. I only found out today that he never gave us the house, it wasn't his but he asked for £10000 to let us stay in it. He's never paid any money towards my and my sister's up bringing and stuff. Also found out that because of that, my mum barely managed to look after us. I found out that me and my sister lived with my grandparents for a while. Basically, what would you do if you found out your dad had lied to you for the past 15 years?

Answer 1

You have 2 choice

1)Take it or leave it

'cause he's yr dad ,u have no choice.

alternatively u may have a choice i.e. to

2)forgive & forget

No doubt he's a liar, well probably that's one of the reason that lead to the divorce , being a irresponsible liar.he deserve no respect from u girls but he's still yr father, just forgive him & move on with yr life without him. since, he treated u & yr mum badly. u CAN choose not to see him if u like, cherished yr mum & grandparents,as they treated u well.  

Answer 2

Some people believe it is best to forgive and forget, especially where parents are concerned.  It's entirely up to you but to be honest it's in the past and can't be changed so move on and learn from this.

Sometimes the people we love just disappoint and dismay us.  the key is not to let it get you down and to carry on with your life regardless.

Answer 3

Your mum must be an extraordinary lady to have come through all your family hardships. It is a credit to her that she managed to get through it and raise two children. My advice would be to speak to your mum, get her stance on it and see how she feels - as for your Dad, you can't choose your family but sometimes we have to accept that people we love don't always do the things we would expect them to - there may be a very good reason why he lied. What I do know is that father/daughter relationships are often fraught but we have to accept people both for who they are and the choices they make. You, your sister and Mum have each other - sometimes it is the more couragous person who forgives. I lost my Dad to cancer  - he wasn't perfect at all and I'm sure he often told me 'untruths' but he was still my Dad and you only get one of those.

Hope this helps

Curly Girly

Answer 4

first of all... confront him. tell him how you feel. it can only help you. your dad may realize what he did. if he doesnt all you can do is love him for being your dad and helping bring you into the world. that is all you can do. hopefully he sees what he has done. my dad wasnt around my first 14 years then when i turned 18 i found out that he moved to florida. he didnt even have the guts to tell me. i still love him because he is my dad but he lost all my respect. you dont have to respect him but he is your dad.

Answer 5

Sad.   But he is still Dad.