How would you feel if you forgot the anniversary of a parent's death?

Question

Yesterday marked 3 years from the loss of my Dad... and I totally forgot until my sister mentioned it. I had a lot going on with work, and personal issues. I felt depressed yesterday and didn't know why. Maybe somewhere in the back of my mind I forgot? Maybe I'm gradually healing and didn't think of it as him being gone for 3 years, but being there for almost 16 years of my life? Still, it's important to remember him... and I feel like I forgot something important. What are your feelings? Maybe you've been in this situation and can offer some words of advice/experience?

Answer 1

It's better to forget.

Life is for the living.

I'm sure you'll miss him.

What you can do it try going on his birthday to remember him.

Don't let the day you lost him bring those sad memories back.

Let the day he did come to the world be celebrated.

Answer 2

I am guilty of dates and when they died and things, does that mean I don't love and miss my momma.......... no way.....  I have her picture on my bedroom wall, as you come into the room and on this laptop with my stepdad........ talk to her a lot and can still hear her voice and memories of her are constant. so are dates more important than what I have, heck no. can't send cards to heaven, haven't seen a mailman yet. I know she sees and looks down on us every day and my newest grandbabies that are born. I remember other family members that have passed and have memories also.

Answer 3

Been there!  This week marked the 16th year of my brother's sudden passing. Sometimes you remember, sometimes it kinda slips by. It doesn't mean that you don't honor him, or don't remember him.  It means you had a lot going on at the time.  Everyone forgets things that are important every now and then.  Some dates are harder than others.  Time helps to ease the pain.