How would you feel if you found out your mean mother now works for a church?

Question

She left me little self esteem growing up, wouldnt help me with college-- and I supported myself/struggled with minimum wage jobs- the only kind an 18 year old can really find (yet she ate out, took trips, and got advanced degrees), never called and would claim she did when I asked "but you never answer" she said (lie) left me penniless when my dad died when I was 21 (gave me his broken watch) told lies about me to family/friends, remarried rather quickly and her new husband I talked to once on the phone said she told him "all about me" (negative)...I had a child and she never bothered about him...

Anyway, I googled her out of curiosity (I choose now not to even attempt to speak to her-- citing above reasons and more) and she now works at a church, and in the newsletter she writes little articles, ending with 'in gods service" (she was NEVER religious...)She even has a thing where she can hear peoples confesionals, and urges them to "unburden" themselves to her!! scary!!!

What do you all think??

Answer 1

Mabey she's trying to change.. Trying to be a better person..trying to turn her life around..

Answer 2

i think that is the place for her. now she is easily identifiable as a vacuous, corrupt sheep. c'est la vie.

Answer 3

Hmmmm...thats a tough one. Unless you're willing to try and connect once again with your mother, I would ignore it. If what you want is to give her another chance, thats all up to you. Some people do change when they find religion, so she could be sincere these days. However, I can't help but think that if she's really become this "new person" that she hasn't tried to get in touch with you to apologize for her actions/words in the past. Its obvious that you're still confused and possibly still lacking self-esteem, etc., so it may be healthy for you to reach out to her and find out what it really was that made her act that way when you were younger.

Answer 4

I agree with you,   scary.  So often church goers think highly of themselves and their morality due to the fact that they are a "good christian."  I think that sucks and it's scary.  But who knows?

Answer 5

tough love

Answer 6

"Ironic"

Answer 7

i think when you left she no longer had someone to dominate, church probably fills that hole for her. scary yes, but makes complete sense to me.

Answer 8

your mom sounds like she is one of satan;s followers embedding herself into the church just like the clergy with their "need" to cleanse child boys. (you know what i mean)

Answer 9

I'd say she added hypocrisy to her other vices.  She sounds like the mother from h**l and you're better off just forgetting about her and concentrating on raising your own child as best you know how.  It's great to see your child really love you and knowing you have done everything you can for him.  Leave your mother in the past where she belongs....

By the way, you deserve a lot of respect for succeeding on your own.  Not many people have the strength you display and the sanity you obviously possess in spite of having had such a lousy parent.