How would you feel if your child were to tell you he/she was g*y?

Question

just wondering, how would you, as a parent, deal with it?

Answer 1

Surprised, but supportive.  Their life choices do not change the fact they are my child and I love them.

Answer 2

I'd accept them and support them. One's sexual orientation is more trivial than we all think.

Answer 3

I would be surprised, but supportive. Our society is changing, and it's making it easier for people to come out with their sexuality. You have to be supportive, especially for you child, because they trust you the most and expect you to be there for them when they really need you, and that is a time that is the most difficult for them. Be supportive and loving, and remember it's nothing you did, it just happens that way sometimes. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

if they were happy and they loved who they are then i would be happy. i have two boys ones 2 and one is 3 months and it doesnt matter to me if they are g*y or straight. i love my boys for who they are, to me thats all that matters

Answer 5

be shocked, then accept it

Answer 6

bye son it was nice knowing you...

him: "im g*y.."

me: "im sorry who are you?"

Answer 7

I would feel the same exact way I had felt for him before he told me were g*y.  It's no different than him telling you that he got his first girlfriend.

Answer 8

I would be the proud parent of a wonderful child.

I will love my kids NO MATTER WHAT. As long as they have a mate that treats them with love and respect I will be happy for them.  

Answer 9

I have a 3 1/2 year old and I would be fine with it.  it is not my place to tell anyone what or who to do with their life.  It is my place to love my child and give them all the support i would if they were straight.  It is not ANYONES place to judge another person, we will all get judged one day so why not try to make our time here as peaceful as possible.  

I will be happy if he finds someone who respects him and treats him with love and respect and I just want him to be happy.  As a parent we shoudl not want for anything else.

Answer 10

Since people cannot control their sexual orientation, all parents should be extremely accepting if they find out that their child is g*y. Being g*y is exactly like being straight, just the opposite. g*y people cannot "overcome" being g*y any more than straight people can "overcome" being straight. Straight women can't suddenly just decide, "Hey, I don't like guys anymore. I like girls now." Neither can homosexuals. Sexual orientation is something that you are born with. If there are cases in which a g*y person has "converted," they are only doing it because they are bring forced to succumb by the norms set forth by society. They still have feelings for people of their own gender, because that cannot change any more than a straight person's feelings can change. If people had a choice, why would anybody choose to be g*y? Nobody would choose a life where they are embarrassed, judged, and ridiculed on a daily basis. Why would anybody want to be g*y in the society that we live in? Since the child has no control over the situation, how could you handle it in any way other than offering the utmost support?

Answer 11

I would feel nothing different.  She is still my daughter and I will love her no matter what.  Who am I to tell her who she can and cant love.  As long as she's happy, and not in a bad relationship where she's being abused, or is with someone doing drugs or anything like that, then Im happy.  I dont understand how a parent can disown their child because they prefer to date people of the same s*x.  I mean what kind of parent would just turn their back on someone like that? Not a good one in my book.  Im sorry but if you stop loving your child, or turn your back on your child over sexual prefence, then your not fit to be a parent.

Answer 12

I would proably feel even more protective of her, as I know how difficult ignorant people can be.  The scientific world has proven that there is a "g*y gene" which enfluences people towards being g*y. No one wakes up one morning and says "wow, I think I'll be g*y from now on, so that my life can be difficult, I can be treated badly by ignorant people, and be descriminated  against for the rest of my life".

Answer 13

Total support because your child will need it; he/she won't get much of it anywhere else!  

Answer 14

I would be a bit upset, but I would accept it, and be happy. as long as they were not stuck up about it. They would need to act like normal. I would always love them no matter what.

Answer 15

my mum blamed herself for a while then got up and actually went to a club with my brother. she's now over the moon as he has a lovely partner who loves him very much. it's not anyones fault, it's a broken chromosome that some people are just born with. it doesn't change who that person is and just love them for them. i've known my brother was g*y since i was 12 and he was 14. a bit obvious when he was taking my barbie dolls and cutting their hair and giving them fish net stockings lol but if it were my kids, it would make no difference to me. i'd love and support them anyway. it's hard enough to see them loose their friends and go through the hard time of coming out the closet but g*y does not equal aids. thats mainly the bi-sexuals.

Answer 16

no problem as they are still the person they were before .. i would hope i would no  or they cud come to me with anything like that

Answer 17

I would tel him/her that I love them, and if the practice violates the laws of your religion them tell them so and do so justly. I have a daughter that told me this and I explained to her the response I will have  after i told her I loved her. Everyone wants to believe that they will handle it with extreme grace and not lose there child.I Stood my ground and to my beliefs and told her how God viewed this. And she resented me for many years until she came to my door alone and "born again" as a christian. I have my child back.

Answer 18

Well being g*y myself I know it is not a "lifestyle choice", g*y people are g*y the same way straight people are straight, it just is. You should act the same as before you found out, but a bit more, if that makes any sense. Coming out can be really hard, so don't just act as if nothing happened, be happy that he/she confided in you and not keeping it in.