How would you feel if your husband to be wanted to wear a kilt in the wedding?

Question

He's said that "if you don't mind, I'd like to wear a kilt" Would you allow it? Have you ever been to a wedding that the groom (& groomsmen) wore a kilt? In your opinion what would be your general take of the situation

My fiancé would like to wear a kilt and I'm leaning towards yes because this IS his wedding too. And you only do this once. I'm just curious what other brides to be would do.

Thanks for your answers!

Answer 1

Is he Scottish? or Irish? If he is then go for it.  If not he'll just look silly.

Answer 2

Coming from Scotand nearly all the wedding I have been to the grooms have wore kilts I would let him but compromise on colour and material. You can get kilts in every colour from black leather to pink to green to white anything you want so you can get one that ties in with your colours and bridesmaids.

Answer 3

If he had Scottish ancestry, it wouldn't bother me in the least. However if he was some other nationality, it would be odd and out of place. However he is a grown man able to make his own decisions so I don't "allow" him to do anything since I am not his keeper.

I've seen lots of pictures online where the groom is in a kilt and they don't look weird at all. It is your husband's day too so he should be able to make decisions as well, particularly regarding his attire since he will be wearing it.  

Answer 4

I say let him do it.  My FH gave me his only stipulation which was a zuit suit (sp).  So we have now transformed our theme into old Hollywoodland to fit him and his groomsmen's desire, plus we get to have a little fun with it as well.  I feel whatever I can get my guy to help with the more i'm willing to include.

Wish you and your future hubby all the best!

Answer 5

Why does everyone think that only Scots wear kilts.  The Irish have tartans too , so do Whales and certain English lines    I'm an English girl and my fiance is Irish , so if he said he decided that he wanted to wear a kilt  Id say heck yes.  You cant be ashamed of heritage.   But if your not from the UK or around it , ask him why?  maybe its just his dream , ya know ,like how most little girls dream of a huge white dress.

Answer 6

Well i am of strong irish roots i came from mallow ireland and i asked my wife the same thing she laughed at me and said only i get to wear a dress honey. So we talked about it and she thought it would be a cool ideal when they day came though that breeze was a little cold there honestly but me and all my grooms men where in kilts. She allowed it but said if we get married again i am wearing a tux lol.

Answer 7

I would be a little concerned if my husband wanted to wear a kilt since he is not Scottish. But if that is your fiance's hertiage and he wants to represent it, then okay but i would tell him your preference.  He would have to make the chioce after that.

Answer 8

If it's his heritage it should be okay. If his family has a plaid than you can use one of the colors for your BM dresses. Plaids actually help a lot because your color scheme is already chosen lol...

I went to one last year with an Irish bride and groom and it was awesome! All the guys wore the family's plaid and the girls had hunter dress dresses that matched the green in the plaid. It was gorgeous! They also had bagpipers and cladaghs (spelling??) were etched into their rings. Really good for them and the pictrues were amazing, it looks REALLY formal!

Good luck  

Answer 9

If it's part of his heritage/culture, of course.

It's not a matter of you 'allowing it', he's getting married, too!

Who wouldn't want this at their wedding -

http://www.eastmidlands.info/skegness/im...

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Really, it can look quite lovely,

http://www.thescottishnook.com/images/fo...

http://www.pipelinebagpipes.com/images/w...

http://www.kilts.com/custom2.jpg

Answer 10

Funny that you ask... My fiance is Scottish and proud of his heritage, so we discussed his wearing a kilt for our wedding. At first I was thinking Yah! OK. Then as time wore on, I kept thinking, well that means that he won't have a tux for any photos. So, I talked to him about it and we compromised. He's going to be wearing a kilt for part and a tux for the other part. This way I get nice, formal photos with him in a tux and we both get the formal kilt photos. We are so excited, especially since we've chosen our tartan. I say, have at it! Let him wear a kilt! There's only one day for it! Best of luck and congrats!  

Answer 11

I went to a wedding where the groom wore a kilt. It was kind expected of him, since he was from Scotland. His groomsmen and father also wore kilts. It looked great. Just make sure everyone has good undies on, because it can get a little crazy at the reception.

If my husband had wanted to wear one at our wedding, I would have been all for it.

Answer 12

Is he a Scotsman?  OF COURSE!  I think it's MORE than kind that he asked you, because you are RIGHT, it IS HIS wedding as well!  I'm frankly TIRED of women acting like it's all about them, because that's a TERRIBLE way to "join together" as someones "partner".  

If he wants to wear a kilt, I would tell him that you aren't going to "let" him, that it's his decision to make and that you are HAPPY to support him!  He doesn't need your permission!  I think you are TOTALLY on the right track!  

I think this is classy of him, if he's Scottish, if not, I think it's extremely tacky and frankly, quite rude.  I adore the idea, if it's part of his heritage.  This is a celebration for your BOTH!  I have attended weddings like this, some immature dude will always be there to snicker, but whatever... it all means nothing to that person anyway, forget about OUR opinions!  Do what is most meaningful to YOU BOTH!

Best wishes!

Answer 13

I would say go ahead, its your wedding too, just watch out for the breeze.  

Answer 14

I'd say yes, simply becuase there must be a reason that he is bringing the idea up, its not like you'd suddenly say 'can I get married in a boiler suit please' unless it meant something special to you.  

Answer 15

In my opinion, if your husband is Scottish... and I mean directly from the county itself born and raised... or his parents are from there.. then it would make sense... but otherwise.. no.  

I'm Irish, german, and italian but that doesn't mean I'm going to use their wedding traditions..

Your wedding is the most important day of your life.. one of them anyway.. and I personally would not want to see pictures of myself in a gorgeous dress next to my husband.. in a kilt.

I agree that it is his wedding too but whatever happened to just wearing a nice suit?

Bottom line.. if he's not a true Scotsman than I say no!

Answer 16

Absolutely, especially if it's a part of his heritage. This is a tradition for men of Scottish descent. And like you said, it's his wedding too. He would never dream of telling you what your gown could or couldn't look like!

Answer 17

How bridezilla would someone have to be to say their future husband couldn't wear a kilt! My dads side of the family is Scottish and if I went to a wedding of a male family member and he was wearing a tux because his bride had forbid him to wear a kilt I would be shocked and offended by her. Its the grooms wedding day too like you said so he should be able to wear what he wants, it was sweet of him to consult with you though.

I went to a wedding once (not in Scotland) where my cousin wore a kilt as a guest, and aparently the bride was in tears because he "ruined her wedding". I couldn't believe it! A Scotsman should be able to wear a kilt to a wedding if hes a guest or the groom.

Answer 18

only if he is indeed scottish otherwise this is extremely tacky.

it is a wedding not a costume party

Answer 19

If he's Scottish, and he's really in touch with his roots, I would be more than happy to honor that tradition.

However, if his only connection to the Scottish heritage is that he likes whiskey, then I would ask him why he wants to do it, and ask him to really think about it. I think your guests would be kind of confused as well if this was an out-of-the-blue decision.

Overall, though, I'm not fond of the kilt look unless you're actually in Scotland.

I'm sure you guys will come to the right decison.

Answer 20

If Scottish is part of his heritage, a kilt is a fine idea.  If there is no Scottish background, then I'd wonder what is his motivation.

Answer 21

If he had Irish or Scottish heritage, I'd LOVE the idea (I happen to have both, LOL, so that might have something to do with my attitude) and I think it would be freaking awesome!

Answer 22

I actually suggested it to my husband. He looked great in a kilt, and I knew he'd be into it. We got married in the Mojave desert, so we're not very traditional anyway. My brother was the only guy in the wedding party, and he wore slacks.

We are also of Irish heritage, and the Irish are also proud kilt wearers. It's not just for the Scots, after all.

Here's a link to one of our pictures, for illustration.

http://inlinethumb56.webshots.com/37815/...

Answer 23

i just farted and there is nothing you can do about it

it smells soooo good.. its lish

Answer 24

Very s*x and the City style.  I'd say go for it Charlotte!

Answer 25

I would have freakin' loved it....nothing like a man in a kilt....

Seriously,  if this is something he feels strongly about I say go for it!  

I love to see men in kilts...think I'll go watch Braveheart now.

Answer 26

of course i would allow it!!!  you have to remember, it's HIS wedding too!! you can't have control over everything!

Answer 27

I know of a few weddings where the groom and his attendants wore kilts. Its a Scottish thing. I say let him do it, it is like you said his wedding too. Its a fairly formal looking thing, Plus once you are officially married. Its easy access, if you know what I mean.

Answer 28

"Allow"? What am I, his mother? My fiance' and I have a loving relationship based on mutual consideration and respect. Personally, if he didn't have a say in my dress, I would NOT assume I had a say in his attire. If he has Scot/Irish heritage, I think it would be a lovely tribute, and I have seen (in magazines, and in person) weddings where the groom/attendants wore kilts.

My fiance' and I are personalizing our otherwise-traditional wedding to reflect our heritage and personalities, so this doesn't seem too out-of-the norm to me. My fiance' doesn't plan to wear a kilt, but if he wanted to, I wouldn't pitch a fit, haha.

I am glad that you are leaning toward the "okay with it," and are among the few brides out there that know it's not all about them =] I hope you didn't take my first paragraph as if it was directed at you...That is just my general opinion on brides who don't share our outlook. It reflects well on your relationship that he asked your opinion on his attire, so congrats on the upcoming wedding!