How would you handle the EX?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. Due to a situation that was done through the courts because of protective reasons I have not been able to meet his two children. He is the process now of having this removed so we can move on further with our relationship. He has been divorced for 4 yrs and he has custody of the children. (yes she lost that option due to actions on her part) My dilemma, I have not met the children, and I have not ever met the EX yet I am labeled by her and her parents by some pretty nasty names. I have no intentions of ever keeping or have the children go against their mother. I have high morals on that issue. A child should always be able to spend time with their mother. My question is if things are this bad even before we are married what will it be like after? Has anyone been able to conquer and divide and able to find a way to make things easier for all? Open to all suggestions..

Answer 1

You should still meet the ex. Show her you aren't the bad person she thinks you are, and if she thinks you are trying to steal her children tell her otherwise. If you love this guy you will stay and try it out. "Take the car for a test drive." <<<cheesy I know. I just made it up. Haha. Good luck though! :)