How would you handle the death of a child, either your own or a close friend?

Question

Even a close friend of yours whose child (boy or girl) has died. How can you handle that with its parents? What if, God forbid, your child should die, how would you handle the child's death where brothers and sisters of the child is concerned? If it was mine, I'd probably have a nervous breakdown, unable to cope with it!

Answer 1

My daughter passed away shortly after birth, you take it one day at a time.  Like me you never get over it you just learn to cope.  I always pray that I grief healthy without resentment.  Some days are good and some arn't, filled with confusion and hurt.  People have told me that they could never deal with that, but you know we didn't have a choice, we have two other children.  My son is the oldest and he's only 10, he kind of dealt with it silently, but still after a year he won't let me pass a cemetary, he tells me he just can't take it.  One way I do think of it is after that happened to me I looked at life differently, I always thought that I was blessed to have two healthy children but I actually can feel the love inside me even more and not just for my children but for all my loved ones and friends.  I remember after she died we recieved are tax refund for about $5000, normally I would be jumping for joy, but I didn't care, money meant nothing to me anymore.  The only suggestions I would have is to listen to the person who has went through this and remember not to be afraid to mention it, believe me they have not forgotten.  A year has gone by and sometimes I just would like to hear someone mention her without thinking it will hurt me because actually it lets me know they still remember her.  Love never forgets. Good luck, email me if you would like.  It helps me also heal by helping others.                                                                                    Brooklynn Faith Born Feb.28, 2007 Born still but still born.

Answer 2

It is unbearabkle almost, but with the love and full support of loved ones, each day should bwecome less and less morbid. It is not a pretty place, but with the right crew behind ya, it can be done. I have lost baby cousins and a stillborn son. I will never forget, but I will remember them fondly and know that love does conquer what is most important.