First of all, my parents are divorced and have been since I was a baby. I live with my mom and visit him occasionally.
It all started about two months ago when I went camping with my mom. My dad got mad at me for not calling him and telling him, because suposidly he wanted me that weekend. When I got home from camping my dad finally got a hold of me and started rattling on about how I disappointed him (for not calling him), I got a little hurt and I wrote a letter, I put it on myspace (just for my friends to see), it was about how he'd hurt me and about the things that he has done that disappointed me and then I wrote a second one about the good times we have had and all my good memories of him. My cousin told him about the first letter (not all of it, its not that bad) and I ended up with my dad calling me and yelling at me and saying this "Whats this s**t I hear you are talking about me behind my back, real mature Amanda, real mature". I am not a very good verbal communicater so I handed the phone to my mom and had her talk to him, by that point I was bawling. My dad never read those letters, so he is just going off on what my cousin is saying.
Since then, he has called again, and we talked about it. It went well and I thought that he was done and it was over with.
But today, he took me out to lunch and I didnt really talk to him about it, but he did talk, I just listend . It was going well up untill he brought me home, he wanted me to talk, I tried, he started implying my mom was a bad mom (she is the women that raised me, thats where I lost it, she is a wonderful women). I couldnt take it anymore and I said I am done and got out of the car and shut the door and went inside my house and locked all the doors. My dad sat there for twenty minutes calling and texting me. I didnt want anything to with him at that moment. So I texted him and asked him nicely to please leave. He asked me if that was all, I said goodbye. But he wanted me to go outside to say goodbye. I wasnt going to go outside. I felt like a hostage in my own home because I couldnt leave, he was blocking the drive way and he would have followed me. I waited for him to leave. Once he did that I made sure he was long gone, I just wanted to be with somebody so I went a chilled with a trusted adult (my mom wasnt home when all this happend), she made me feel wonderful.
I wasnt originally going to go with him, I thought it was the mature thing to do.
How would you of handled it if you were in my situation?
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