How would you know if your husband is g*y?

Question

He has all the signs so I am told. He hangs around with a man who we think is Bi like everyday for the last 3 years. He takes Viagra even when we don't do anything & says it is for his own pleasure!?. He tells me I am crazy along with everyone else who thinks he is doing something with this man. I am the last on board with thinking something is up of course. Now my mind is fuming as I look back & realize that all the dates we have been on together was with this man. My husband chooses this man over me for anything unless I yell really LOUD. My husband tells me I am crazy for thinking this & to be honest this is tearing our marriage apart. He is ready to leave me & the kids & told me that the only reason he spends time with this man is to get away from me. I thought our marriage was good! His excuse for wanting to leave is me; because I am asking him if he is cheating on me all the time he goes out. And we are arguing about this whole mess. I don't want to feel deceived & I don't like it when peep look @ me the way they do when I am with my husband & his friend. Everyone is talking about it & I want to trust my husband.

Answer 1

You need to make your husband understand that your time and his time should be alone. I wouldn't want another person always tagging along every where we went either. As for the g*y issue, I would have to say that is a 50/50 question. A lot of men have buddies they golf, go hunting, fishing etc; with and they are straight. If your husband prefers to relax with him or be with him 24/7 for no other reason than his company, then I would start checking up on the both of them. You don't have to announce it to the world but you can be your own detective. Find out more about the other guy. Check up on him.

Answer 2

g*y or not he's not treating you very well so if i was you i'd just chuck him out, if i was you i would of snapped before now. go for it girl you deserve better.

Answer 3

do a 69 with him and have a look at his a**s. if its a gaper he probably enjoys bum fun with his friend.

Answer 4

Whoa. His friend went on DATES with you? Look on his computer and see if you can find any g*y p**n or websites in his search history. Ask him about his sexual fantasies. Does he seem interested in s*x when you have it?

Answer 5

Often when the spouse suspects something is up it is way too late. Your husband totally sounds g*y, and lying to you is terrible. You are probably better off without a guy like that.

If you really need to know if he is g*y, then ask him if he would like to have a threesome with you and this other guy. Sounds crazy, but it just might work if you can get him to bite.

Answer 6

Birds of a feather flock together in other words you are what you run with or he agrees with that type of deviant behavior so in my eyes he is sicker especially leaving you open to all the STD's these people transmit in the comunity you know they sleep with any and everyone they can don't you.

Answer 7

Birds of a feather flock together(hes bi too)

Answer 8

i wish i had this problem, i would be happy to have my man ditch me for another man lol

Answer 9

Take a step back and take a good look at your marriage as a whole.  Set aside the g*y issue for a minute.  Is it true that you never go out with your husband without this other man along?  Is it true that he spends time with this man every day?  Is it true that he chooses this man over you for anything unless you yell?  If all this is true, then you have a problem in your marriage even if your husband is not sleeping with this man.

It's time for a calm talk with your husband, not about the cheating (at least not at first), but about the marriage.  Focus on what you want your marriage to be like and what you need from your husband to make that happen.  What does he want from the marriage?  Also talk about what you are willing to do to strengthen the marriage.  Do you want to go for some counseling to talk through all aspects of your marriage?  Would he commit to that?

Yes, from where I sit, it does sound like he may be g*y and cheating on you.  Often a person who cheats becomes angry and blames the spouse when confronted, but a person who doesn't cheat may become angry too, so his response isn't "proof."  Still all the things he is doing is weird and not healthy in a marriage.

Does he still love you?  Try to tap into those feelings that he had for you when you married.  Calmly and softly ask him to be honest with you for the sake of your health and safety and to tell you if you should be protecting yourself and getting tested for AIDS.  If he's not willing to sit down and have a conversation with you, then what kind of marriage do you really have?

Blessings.

Answer 10

maybe you are going a little too crazy over this or maybe he is really g*y. have you tried to talk to him instead of shouting at him? when you say every date you have ever been out with him on his friend was there when you look back you must relize this wasnt a date at all. and he takes viagra for his own pleasure?! does he take it when he is going out with this man?

Answer 11

If his genitalia smells like another man's f***s then he's probably g*y.

Answer 12

Go with your gut instinct, it is usually right.  

Answer 13

He is g*y.  I'm sorry there is no reason a man would need to take viagra to please himself, that alone is ridiculous.  Think would you choose a female friend over him?  Maybe sometimes yes, but not like what your mentioning.  You might as well accept the fact he is either g*y or bisexual (if he sleeps with you).    

Answer 14

They very well could just be friends. If it were my, I would stop bothering your husband with asking him all the time and just hire a private investigator to tail him for like 2 weeks and see what he finds and digs up. Let your husband go out with this guy so the PI can see them interact.

Of course, this is ignoring the issue that your husband seems to want to get away from you which is why he spends time with this other guy. So there could be other issues there too as to why he feels the need to get away from you.

Answer 15

Put your finger in his f***y. See what his reaction is.