How would you react??

Question

To make a long story short A women walked by my boyfriends work station at his place of employment. As he watched her he asked another man that works along side of him, " Would you eat her?" I found out about this comment and was not only insulted but very hurt. I feel very disrespected. He says that I,am taking it the wrong way. I also have to hear over and over again from him. "I have been so good." He acts like he deserves a medal for being faithful. How would all of you react? Would you be hurt?

Answer 1

I would find myself a new boyfriend!

Answer 2

I would get a new boyfriends , what he did was so disrespectful and also almost like cheating on you  

Answer 3

Yeah, I would be offended too. I hate how men talk so disgusting about women like that. And as for you, you should be upset but you have to keep in mind that he is a man. It's not an excuse, but you must know that he probably talks like that normally. Tell him this makes you upset. Maybe he'll understand your point of view

Answer 4

Apart from being crass (and that goes with the territory), he's done nothing wrong.  Looking and lusting aren't doing.  Besides, there's no such thing as cheating.  Do you own him?  Do you keep him on a short leash?  Either you love him or you don't.  There's no drama and you need no advice.

Answer 5

I would be offended by that comment....and outraged by his notion that he deserves praise for his faithfulness.  If you are in a committed relationship, it is a given (unless otherwise discussed before hand) that each participant be faithful.  Find a new boyfriend while you still have some dignity : )

Answer 6

That was WRONG, I would be hurt.  I would be P*SSED too!

Ask him "what, you've been faithful so you get a free pass to go off and do something with someone else? I DONT THINK SO"

Being faithful is something he should do because he wants to, because he loves and cherishes and respects you.  NOT to prove he is "good".

His comment was no only hurtful but disrespectful to YOU and your relationship.

Answer 7

Wronged, hurt, offended and pissed.  Being male, I can say with some basis that men do have ways of talking about women that demean.  Your friend is not alone in this.  You might try, if he is worth it, sitting down and talking to him about the depth of your feellings, how, if he refers to a woman he doesn't know that way, how can you not think he refers to you in the same way, and how, if that is how he evaluates a woman he doesn't know, how confident can you be that he doesn't evaluate you in the same way.  There are many "jokes" passed around that do, in fact, reflect the minds of the people passing them around, so it is valid that you have to get this clarified.

Answer 8

If he did it in front of you it's bad, if you weren't there it's not so bad, but you found out so it's bad.  He should apologize at least.  But on the other hand, he deserves a medal for being faithful.

Answer 9

wow what a cannibal boyfriend you have.... just tell him what you feel i am not a psychologist i am also a guy but sometimes we just carried away from what were saying and i know we dont mean anything unless you see him on the act right?