How would you react...?

Question

How would you (or how did your parents) react if your 16 year old daughter fell pregnant with a boy she had a fling with?

Answer 1

i was pregnant at 16 but i was in a relationship with the same boy they were very supportive  

Answer 2

I would just make sure she knows i am there for her 100% obviously i would be angry, anyone would. but if she didn't want to get an abortion she needs her mothers support, imagine being 16 years old and pregnant, and on your own, no one should have to go through that.

I would explain to her what shes done how it will be difficult now but she has to take responsibility for her actions. But also let her no her life isn't over this could be a wonderful thing providing she grows up fast and that's one of the consequences of her actions. I really feel sorry for young girls like this, as they are not bad people its an easy easy mistake to make. good luck xx

Answer 3

My parents freaked out at first, but it was initial shock. Yes they were very disappointed, but they are still very supportive of me and my family. I know coming from a mother at 17 this doesn't mean much, but if I can, I want to prevent my children from making the same mistake as me. I don't regret it now, but if it didn't happen, my life would have been just a great, and a lot easier. Hope I could help! xoxo

Answer 4

I would be concerned and maybe upset for the dillema but my primary focus would be supporting and helping her as best I can. I think most parents switch into help mode more than angry mode.

Answer 5

Some people are academically talented, whilst others have brilliant mothering instincts. Of course some people are gifted with both and some people are not gifted at all, but if a 16 year old got pregnant there’s no point screaming and shouting, the damage has been done and I just hope she’s a great mum and although she’s only 16 there’s no evidence saying she wont be the best mum in the world. Only the young lady in question can say whether a baby is what she really wants, and if she does, I wish her all the best.

Answer 6

I'd be shocked, and maybe cry a little. My little girl who I've changed diapers and wiped up spills from and read to has started to engage in one of the most ADULT acts a person can do, and that would freak me out considerably.

But I'd try to remember her feelings as well. She's only 16, after all, and probably scared out of her wits at finding out she's pregnant. I would advise her to keep the baby, and tell her we'd (my husband and I) help her any way we can.

I'd make sure she gets set up with the right medical help or that she's covered enough by my own insurance. I would ask to meet the father of the baby together with her and my husband. Even if it was a fling, it isn't a fling anymore. He's going to a father and part of the family now.

I'd be slightly disappointed, but that wouldn't make me love her any less.  

Answer 7

I would be a lot of things: shocked, hurt, disappointed, angry, scared for my daughter.  But, I would also support her. I will never leave or dessert my children for anything they have done, or mistake that they have made....including an unplanned pregnancy. My husband feels the same way. Neither of us believe in abortion, so the only option would be for her to give it up for adoption or for us to help her raise the baby. The decision would be hers.

Answer 8

I would be obviously upset ...but very supportive.

Answer 9

I would sit her down and let her know that i am there for her no matter what.  I was 16 too and that could have been me.  I would tell her that i love her and i will help her out as much as i can.

I would just accept it.  Theres not much you can do, and i dont believe in abortion, so i would just have to help her as much as i could.  I would be upset, but there for her any way.

Answer 10

yes im 16 and im pregnant although it was not a fling i have been i this relationship for 1 year and 5 months but yes my parents when i told them last week my mum was not to happy about it at 1st but she soon warmed to the idea and my dad was really happy for me and happy he was going to be a grandad for the 1st time my mum was not so botherd about the gran thing as she already has 3 grandchildren

and the rest of my family i.e my brothers and sister were just shocked  

Answer 11

my parents would not approve, but they also would let me know what i got myself into and let me make my own decision on what the outcome would be, an abortion or keeping the child.

Answer 12

My parents would freak out and say that they threw away their life, which is kinda true because then your whole life is for the baby once its born.