How would you react to your second grade son getting beat up by a pre-K student?

Question

Our next door neighbor's son is in my daughter's second grade class. Apparently while all the kids were getting off the bus yesterday, a pre-k student punched our neighbor's son in the eye.

The neighbor's son then pushed him. The pre-k boy then punched him in the stomach and the second grader started crying and ran home.

My neighbor told me about it last night and referred to his son as a "wuss" for getting punked by a kid three years younger than him.

I thought that was a bit harsh

Answer 1

Tell your neighbor not to worry too much about it.  First off, you don't know if the pre-k kid's father taught him to fight or not.  He probably did.  There are some parents like that.  If your neighbors kid doesn't know how to fight, then the pre-k kid has the advantage.  Tell your neighbor to stop calling his kid a wuss and let the kid grow up in his own time.  Maybe some encouragement would help, instead of negative comments.  Tell him good luck.  And maybe you might want to offer him a book on proper parenting techniques and the right things to say to his kid.

Answer 2

My son is in Pre-k and he got in trouble for pushing around a kid twice his size that was in second grade.  My son and another pre-k child were getting picked on by the older kids in the car rider line up.  I was mad at my son for touching another person, but not for standing up for himself.  We all had a sit down and the parents were embarrassed about the age difference and I told them that doesn't matter but both boys were wrong.  I wouldn't call my son or anyone else a wuss for walking away from a fight, but men have ego problems when it comes to their son.  My son was punished for his part though.  All you can do is worry about your own children and there is not much you can do about everyone elses.

Answer 3

id get the kid fighting lessons like ASAP or he's goin 2 get beat up again later on in life

Answer 4

I agree - it is a harsh way to look at it. I'd be happy that the second grader did not hit the other child again and went home instead, since in my household, violence is an unacceptable way to solve problems. I'd also be following up with the busdriver and the preschoolers parents. It's too bad your neighbor is only concerned with how his son appears (as a wuss).

Answer 5

yeah that is sick that the parent would say such a thing. The reason that boys have to be so macho in our world is because of parents like that. Just be cause the other kid was younger does not mean that he is not bigger and stronger. Also that other kid needs a good time out! Tell you neighbor that his son is not a wuss and that it is better that he did not fight back.

Answer 6

I kind of agree with the father.  What is going to happen if a bigger kid picks on him? He will surely cry then.  The boy needs to learn to stick up for himself. It is a rough world these days.... I do think that calling him a wuss was a little inappropriate.

Answer 7

I bet it wont happen again..The older kid does not know how to defend himself..If I were his Dad, I would make sure he knew for sure what to do next time!

Answer 8

That kid should definitely be taught how to defend himself and not be such a puss. Kids these days aren't as tough as they used to be. Hopefully the dad can help him out with that.