How would you tell a married man to leave you alone if you have to work close with him?

Question

I am on a ministry at my church, and this young man who’s married is using my personal information (cell phone and email) for he on pleasure. He has started emailing me and texting me telling me how much he is thinking about me throughout the day and I want it to stop. We are working closely one a up-coming project at church together so I don’t want to be down right rude, and then people are able to feel the tension in the air which in return would let them know that there is something wrong. I don’t know how or what to say to that will make him get the point that I don’t want him like that, but we are able to still work together.

PLEASE ADVISE!!!!

Answer 1

I would go to someone higher like the person in charge at the church program and just explain what is happening and tell them to talk to the guy... Your not being rude. You are uncomfortable and he is totally crossing a boundary with you....

Answer 2

Well, maybe you just might have to be rude to him if it's causing problems for you. Usually, people say they were just playing around and didn't want you to take it serious. He will understand if he knows he's causing problems. Besides, if he's a married man he'll be the one embarrassing himself if people see he's trying to flirt with other women. good luck

Answer 3

Who cares if you are being rude to him

He is MARRIED and trying to hit on you and of all places in a CHURCH!

Tell him that your going to show those messages to his wife if he does back up.

Answer 4

Don't worry about being rude, he already is.  This type of man will not stop with subtle hints or just saying no.  This type of man is a predator,  and he will persist.  You really need to tell him flat out to leave you alone or you will go to the authorities, either in the church or the police.   This man can not be embarrassed nor does he care that he is hitting on you.  He is hoping for sexual gratification.  Going to his wife won't help, either she knows he is a pig and fools around, or she will deny he does it and she will blame you.  Make a copy of an e-mail and show him and take it to a person in charge.  You need to expose him and stop this right away.

Answer 5

I hate old pervs.  Tell him your young and hot and you only like young and hot men.

Answer 6

Let him in. He's experienced.

Answer 7

Talk to the person in charge of the project that you guys are doing together, let them know how uncomfortable you are with this guy coming on to you. Either way there is going to be some kind of tension, But you want him off your back right? so deal with that later, you want him to leave you alone, focus on that, He seems like the type that would make his wife think that it is you coming on to him. Be careful and let him know that you've had enough and you are going to tell someone he is disrespecting you.  

Answer 8

You're going to have to be blunt about it. Next time you see him, simply say, "I don't think that the contact you've been attempting to have with me is appropriate at all, since you're married. I want you to stop."

Then, don't respond to him about anything other than a professional e-mail or call.  

Answer 9

Say "Leave me alone."

Answer 10

take him aside and tell him you know his wife well. He shouldnt say one more word. He will never know u dont really know her, hes not about to ask her!

Answer 11

Either tell him "LEAVE ME ALONE!" OR Tell him "Adultry is a sin" and then put his name on the prayer list at church.

Answer 12

Just get him in a private conversation ( where others can see you but cant hear what you say). Tell him that his attentions are bothering you - that as a decent Christian woman you are not at all interested in a married man. If that doesnt work - talk to your pastor about it.

Answer 13

Politely tell him if he doesn't stop texting and emailing you that you will let his wife know. There is nothing wrong with being rude to a married man. He is being rude to his wife trying to get with you behind her back. I thought church folk had more class than that.

Answer 14

Talk to your superiors - They need to GUIDE this creep about his priorities to his marriage!

And do not feel bad when you tell him to get a life - He is violating YOU so, you have every right to put a stop to it.