How would you tell your mom that..?

Question

your engaged?... im 15 turning 16 and my boyfriends 17 turning 18..he asked me and i couldnt rlly say no to him because i have a fear of ending up like my mom.[i know that sounds rude]..but how do i tell her..her and my boyfriend never met..so yea...she knows who he is just havent met..

Answer 1

I'm assuming you are afraid of being a single parent who has a crappy life.

Getting engaged to the first boy who asks you because you see it as a way of escape is certainly not the way to keep from ending up like her. You need to set goals for your future, for an education and a career.

Don't ever look at a guy as a means of escape or a way to have someone take care of you or give you the love that you feel you are lacking. You need to be happy with yourself and secure in knowing that you can have a good life without a man before you settle down with one.

A husband will bring added joy and love to your life but he can't ever be your only source. If you try to dump that responsibility on him, he won't be able to handle it. No one can. Marriage has rough times in it and if you are totally dependent on him for your happiness, you will never have a good marriage. Its also more likely that you will be used and dumped or get into an abusive marriage if you rely on one person to take care of you.

Tell the guy you aren't ready to consider marriage and get your life in order. Do it for you.

Answer 2

Bad move dude, its too soon to thing bout that stuff.  

Answer 3

wow...uhh well thats kind of tough but u just gona have to spill the beans aint no easier way but i think ur a lil to young to be getting married bcuz u have alot more to life then this big and early commitment im not doubting you its just my opinion.......but just spill em ...................WDF ur about to be 16 and every guy wants one thing and if gettin married means he can get it then he'll say it idk if u think ur so deeply in love dont get married now think about all the wat if's if u get to involved ur gona be depressed and do bad in skoo and he just gona be all cool about it which is gona hurt u more bcuz thats how guys are....WOW REALLY REALLY NEED NOT TO DO THAT PLZ DONT DO THAT FOR YOUR FUTURE

Answer 4

aren't u a little young to get married. it you introduce him do it as your bf not husband to be wait a while and think thing though before u get married that is a very large step and a  life time commitment for u i was married 22 years so i know what i'm talking about please wait at least a few years ok  

Answer 5

hope you're planning a very long engagement.  you're both way to young to be getting married.

Answer 6

think hard about what your'e doing, this could just be a fling don't ruin your life by making a decision you werent 100% sure about. i would tell my mom

Answer 7

Don't tell her...chances are it won't work out :\

Answer 8

Um if your mom hasn't met your boyfriend, do you really think that you should be getting engaged?

Well there's a simple answer. Wait. Don't get married, who gets married at 16?

Answer 9

its a bit to young to be serially thinking about marriage you have a entire life in frunt of you and your settling down with one guy now but your mum will have to find out about this sooner or later so facing the music sooner is probably better then waiting till later she might fell upset that u thought that you couldn't share this with her

Answer 10

I'm really sorry, but that's EXTREMELY dumb. Getting married at age 16?!?! That is WAY too young to be thinking about marriage, I don't care how in love you are. If you guys are really meant to be, you will still be together when you are older. Then you can think about marriage.