How would you view this situation?

Question

I have a friend who used to be a big party girl when she was around 15 or so and is now 18. She met a 22/23 year old and they started hanging out, stupidly. Well, she was flattered of course that an older guy wanted to hang out with her, so one thing led to another and very soon after they met they had s*x.

She's spent many months debating over whether or not he took advantage of her, and is still wondering if she should be mad at him or not. Right now, she hates him so much, because of all the pain he put her through. Does she have a right to be mad?

now part 2- sort of...

She has since realized how stupid and young she was to hang out with such an older guy, and has tried to drop him out of her life.. he still tries to get in touch to 'hang out'. Well, he came into the place she works today and she almost had like a panic attack--she felt like puking and was shaking and short of breath.

what do you think? do you think he raped her, even though she says it was consensual, although I'm sure she was pressured? any thoughts?

Answer 1

I don’t think he raped her.

Probably he thinks they love each other, therefore, he tries to get in touch with her.

Has she expressed that she no longer loved him clearly?

She should send her strong intention to him that she dislikes him.

Or he’ll follow her continuously.

It seems to be natural result of her own deeds.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say she was raped, SOunds to me that this is one of those things that, are considered a growning expireince.  Learn from the mistakes, I don't think going with a 22/23 year old when your 18 is wrong, but, just like 18 year old boys, some of them are bad news, and all aged guys can use a girl, just need to be onthe look out for the bad apples, and believe me it takes some of us longer than other girls to figure  out who the good ones are.  As far as her having str8 up panic attacks because she seen him, well, the best thing for her is to keep him out of her life and spend time with good friends doing things 18 year olds should be doing!

Answer 3

I think that she needs to realize that mistakes are part of growing up, and that she needs to listen to herself for the next time.  That is what is making her so nervous, she never really liked this guy enough to have s*x with him, but she did, she regrets it, but she somehow felt obligated to have intercourse.  This is a normal mistake that alot of men and women find themselves involved in.  That is part of growing up, and next time she will tell the guy to get a life, that she is not interested in s*x or whatever it is that she needs to say.  She will get over this, and no, I don't think that he raped her. not at all.   She just regrets giving herself away like that.

Answer 4

Seriously?

She's 18, the situation was beyond what she expected or was prepared to handle, she freaked......end of story.

Do you seriously think that someone who raped a girl would hang around hoping to get more?

Who knows, maybe he really is attracted and likes her.

Luck

Answer 5

i think so :(

srry

but y would he have came back??

so no

idk really srry