How would you word this on your invites?

Question

This will be the 2nd marriage for both of us and read some where that the new trend for 2nd timers is to ask for "Donations to the Honeymoon Fund" in lieu of gifts. We thought this was a neat idea. Having said that, How do you state this in the invitation? Anyone have any cute ideas?

Answer 1

You don't, on neither the invitation nor reception card.

Grown adults pay for their own honeymoon.

Answer 2

I have been to a couple of weddings where they wrote a catchy little poem about already having all they needed and that if you felt the need to give a gift that they would prefer money.. (this was on a separete card in with the invitation), they then encloved a plain envelope - with string attached for you to enclose the money in and had a "money tree" at the reception for you to hang them on.   You could then safely put as much or as little as you wanted and noone knew how much was from who or who didnt give any.

You could also do a registry at a travel agent....

I personnally think it isnt very nice to ask people to your wedding and then ask for money ... I know people who have done it and ended up with enough money to pay for the wedding...

Answer 3

i am always surprised at the number of questions on Y!A that i read asking how to "cleverly" word a request for monetary gifts as opposed to typical registry items.

and every answer is always the same: "it isn't done."

the same way that couples set up a registry for pots and pans, you can set up for a honeymoon. and, like other couples, you can then rely on word of mouth to let everyone know where you've registered. it IS a neat idea, but don't forget the basic rules of etiquette.

Answer 4

do not put gifts or registry places on the invite or in the invite anywhere. Everything I have read says you should spread the word through your moms and MOH or on a wedding website.

Answer 5

I have no idea....I do know that I would not put that on the invitation (no matter how informal it is), but would maybe mention it on the card inside that deals with the reception?

Something like "No gifts please.  But bring your dancin' shoes!  The bride and groom will be "selling" dances for their Honeymoon Fund!"

Answer 6

I think this would be very tacky to put on an invite! You can't tell people they have to give you money.

Answer 7

I wouldn't put in on the invitation.

You can include a card that has a verse for a 'wishing well'

Try this website

http://www.salandras.com/Wishing%20Well%... it has a few different varieties, or you could even try to make up your own.

Answer 8

I think it would be totally tacky to ask for money to fund a trip they won't get any enjoyment out of. If you can't afford to go where you would like, I suggest saving up the money yourself and taking the trip later.

Answer 9

Word of mouth from your friends and family.  Nothing on the invite.  It looks like you're gift-grabbing (or money-grabbing) if you put it on or in the invite.

Answer 10

it is never acceptable to mention gifts on an invitation. what you want and where you are registered is passed by word of mouth.

Edit:

It does not go on anything. Registry and gift info is ONLY passed word of mouth.  If you have a wedding website as many couples do, you can put the info there, but to put it on the invitation or a reception card is asking for gifts.

Answer 11

Bottomline, you don't mention gifts on an invitation.  And, traditionally 2nd marriages don't warrant gifts.