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Okay he's a really nice guy, and cool person to talk to, but i am soo worried that he might be cheatin on my sister, they've been together 3 and half years, and have a 1 yr old baby girl name priscilla,....Well i don't see him often playing with his daugther, and my sister is a stay home mom, and he's always saying he have to go out with his friend, and spending time with his Father, which he mention to my sis long time ago, that he wasnt really close to his dad,.......and he gets off works at 5, and coming home around 8am?...i am worried that he's cheating, becaue my brother in law heard him talking to a girl, on the phone,.....so what you guys think?. Am i just lossing it?, or my sisters bf is actually cheating on her?...Please help!

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Answer 1

Hire a private investigator or go on cheaters..

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Answer 2

This is too long for me to read.

Answer 3

Have you tried mentioning to your sister your suspicion?  In this case, she probably wont listen.

I have known women to ignore the obvious..comfort, family..

As much as this hurts you, or worries you this is something that only your sister can discuss with him.

Answer 4

If he gets off work at 5 pm and doesn't come home till 8 am the next morning, I'd be REAL suspicious.  He's not spending that much time with his friends or his father.  Where is he sleeping at night?

He might very well be cheating on her. But the point is, this isn't any of YOUR business.  I understand that you're worried about your sister, but its HER relationship with HER boyfriend, not yours.  If this guy is staying out all night, trust me, your sister is aware of his absence -- and its up to HER to decide what to do about it.  If she chooses to tolerate his behavior, or allow it to continue for whatever reason, that's up to her. Maybe she's afraid that if she confronts her boyfriend, he'll dump her and she'll be left alone with a baby, no money and no source of support.

All you can do is be there to love and support your sister and your niece.  But don't put yourself in the middle of your sister's relationship with her boyfriend.

Answer 5

This is an absolute ***** of a situation, if your fears are confirmed, but there are possible reasons to explain his actions.

He finishes work at 5 am, but doesn't get home till around 8.

The possibility here is that he is staying out so as not to disturb your sister and Priscilla, particularly if its possible that both could have had a rough night with little sleep, ( through Priscilla teething perhaps).

He's spending time with his father. here there may have been a rift in the past, and through time it's healed, even if he hasn't been close in the past, if his father has or has developed a serious illness, they may have reconciled.

Talking to a girl on the phone. Well as about half the population of the world are female, it would depend on what they were talking about, and it may well have been a female relative.

Some guys, unfortunately, don't make good fathers, and playing with children isn't always top of their priority, particularly when they are working nights, if the job could be stressful, then time spent with a mate could be a reasonable cooling off thing.

I know I have made a lot of statements in his defence, but all are possibilities, however I could be wrong and he is actually playing away from home and cheating, or even possibly g*y if he keeps going off with this 'friend'.

All I have done is looked at it objectively, I hope one of my suggestions is right, but who knows, apart from him.

Mike t.