Hurt by my mom who wants me to stop eating coz im fat?

Question

im 11 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 and i already have a son..i used to be super skinny but i gained 45 pounds while being pregnant first time and i was still holding onto 20 pounds when i got pregnant again..now i quite overweight and I KNOW IT..im trying to eat right with this pregnany with adding fruits and salads but i called my mom today and she asked me if i am getting hungry alot.i told her im not which im not really getting that much hungry.. she said its good thing im not getting hungry and that i should not be hungry...i should stop eating rice and bread and only stick to skim milk and salads... IM SHOCKED and really sad at her attitude..maybe she meant nice but it came out really really rude..... she knows im pregnant and i didnt gained 45 pounds willingly.. i know i am overweight but does it mean that i should stop eating while im pregnant???? i even went to my doctor on my last visit i discussed it with him and he told me to exercise and eat whatever i feel like (minus the cakes and ice creams which im not taking anywayz)..he told me i will gain the weight the baby needs for her to be healthy.. im really depressed with the negative comments esp. from my mom and im kinda thinking if this is going to be that everyone will come and tell me to lose weight..i dont know how to handle it..

Answer 1

I agree with the others.

The reason you are hungry all the time is because you and/or the baby are in need of nutrients and energy.

Remember, you are eating for two.

If your mother cannot accept the fact that you need to eat to maintain a healthy body and health, you should maybe explain to her what the doctor told you, and show her some facts, do a bit of research, and actually show her the information you collected based on women eating while pregnant, and it's effects.

Don't get into verbal arguments with her, she raised you, and I am sure she has helped you many times with your first baby.

Be cool about it, and don't worry.

She will understand if you can correctly explain your thoughts on the subject.

Hope that helped, it's my two cents :)

Answer 2

Try not to beat yourself up.  I gained 45lbs with my pregnancy.  I was on fertility drugs before the pregnancy and put on 10 over the span of 1.5yrs too. Still working on loosing the 20 at the moment.  I know how you feel in that sense.

As for being pregs again, you have to just accept that right now your body is for making a new life.  Take care of yourself, try to eat well for the health of your baby and yourself, and work on the body after.  Being pregnant is not easy, and your hormones make you even more sensitive.  I am so sorry that you are not getting the support from your mom, it is a shame.  Having a baby is no less than a miracle, and it takes sacrifice as you know from having the first one.  

Do what you can to feel good now, buy some clothing that make you feel better and when you can (I know what it is like), do something to make yourself feel pretty.  You are not going to be skinny right now, but that doesn't make you ugly.  

Here is sending you a big hug...remember, you have a big job right now, making person.    

Answer 3

Tell her to butt out and that u are PREGNANT! You need to eat so dont let anybody tell u differently..If she is making u depressed by saying such harsh words then maybe u need to just stop talking to her until the baby is born..Stress is not good for the baby..Eat what u want =)

Good Luck!

Answer 4

You shouldn't overlimit yourself during pregnancy, but neither to limit the foods you eat. You need whole wheat bread and rice during pregnancy, that is needed, so your mom is wrong. However, if you are eating burgers and pizza and junk maybe you should stop.. HOwever, if you are eating healthy foods, there is no need to stop eating... Just eat 3 meals a day with about 2 snack in between... You can lose the weight when the baby is born anyway...

Answer 5

im 37wks pregnant and i was over weight before i got preg too , who cares what other people think as long as your happy with yourself i think you should carry on eating what you like and give your body what its asking you for you can always go on a diet after you have had the baby if you want to..i think that was really nasty and insensitive of your mum to say that,when of all people she should be supporting you !!! try not to take to much notice of negative comments,this should be a time in your life when you can get away with putting on a few extra pounds and eating what you like    

Answer 6

parents especially mothers are cruel when it comes to there daughters weight. I try and ignore my mother negative comments abt me. i put it down to her own low self esteem.  I once said to my mum (via the phone) "mum when we were little you told us if we didn't have nothing nice to say abt someone don't say anything at all, well i think you should take your own advice" and then she hung up on me and didn't call for a week or two, but when she did she did apologies. Sometimes they just need a sutle hint..