Husban no longer helps financially?

Question

My husband and I have been married for over a year. I don't live with him, I live with my daughter and mom because she chooses not to live with him. He moved his sister into his appartment, with his niece. His sister keeps saying that she will move out but she isn't. She doesn't pay rent, or help in any kind of way. He no longer helps me financially, like with my car bill. He can only give me small amounts of money, and now his electricity is nearly being cut off. He is even begging his job for money. Could drugs be involved? What do you think? I know he used to be involved with a drug addiction. Thanks.

Answer 1

sounds fishy time for a serious talk with him

Answer 2

If you think drugs are involved, talk to a lawyer about getting a legal separation so your assets will be protected.  If you own any joint accounts, close them.

Answer 3

U are married, but not living together.  With whats going on, i would file for divorce.  

Answer 4

Why is he helping you financially anyway?  Just because he is your husband does not make him obligated to pay your bills.  Get a job and stop mooching off of your husband whom you don't even live with!!

Answer 5

drugs- possibly

i have two words for you, judge judy.

Answer 6

WTF?  Ok this one is just giving me a migrane, you all are not living in a marriage, you all are living in Jerry Springer land.

Answer 7

Most addicts dont lose their addiction. Does his sister have any issues with addiction?  I would like more info on why your daughter wont live with him.

Answer 8

Do you work? It is both you and your husbands responsibilitys to take care of your daughter. You can't let yourself be dependent on a guy. I know it is hard but try to move on with out his help if he isn't willing to help you should think about putting an end to the relationship

Answer 9

You chose to move out and go to school and have not filed papers, why should he help you?  Why are you letting your daughter run the show?  Be a parent!!!!  You are acting as if you are some child he owes something to.  He owes your NOTHING....are you delusional or something?

Answer 10

Do you notice a difference in his behavior, to where it was like when he was doing drugs?  There really isn't enough detail for me to accurately asses whether he is involved with drugs or is put in a rock and a hard place with you and his sister as far as finances go. maybe some more details? Wanted to still give an answer so you knew someone actually gave a serious thought to it:). I know things aren't always so simple in life and just because you aren't living together doesn't mean you want a divorce either.

Answer 11

Sounds like you need to get off your duff and move in with your husband.  You are supposed to be a couple.  Who is the adult,  you or your daughter?  Who makes decisions, you or your daughter?  You need to pack her up and you both need to move in with your husband and be a family.  That is the reason you did get married, right?  At the same time you move in, move his sister out.  She can go live with someone else.  That is supposed to be your husband and your place.  Get a grip and get control of the situation and try to get things back in order where it is supposed to be.  Then, your husband will regain control of himself too.  Especially once he sees you are there for him and your marriage.

Answer 12

>>>"My husband and I have been married for over a year. I don't live with him, I live with my daughter and mom because she chooses not to live with him.<<<<<

Huh? Then why did you get married? I think you need to clean house and get the people out of your husband and your life. Keep house and help him manage his money. Be a married couple or don'tr complain about the issues that you allow to come up.

Answer 13

don't look back.  it sounds like an odd situation to begin with.  married only a year and not living together?  at any rate, just keep moving forward with your life.  he's a grown man and made choices.  you may want to look for a higher paying job to pay your bills.