Husband's ex always calling asking for favors?

Question

My husband's ex-wife lives with her girlfriend, so they have no man to do their home repairs. The ex calls him (mostly after 9pm on Friday or Saturday night) asking him to fix her car, television, plumbing, etc. etc. . I'm getting fed up. Should I say something or would I just look petty?

Answer 1

If your husband is rushing over to help her out every time she calls...then apparently he isn't fed up.....but I would definitely say something to him....He is under no obligation to be helping out his ex wife....but if they share children...He may want to help her out...because the kids may suffer if there is a broken car, television or plumbing....

Answer 2

you should say somthing to him. that is his ex-wife and he should not be going over to her house for anything unless that have kids together. maybe the ex-wives girlfriend is pumping cramp in her and they just want to make trouble with you. it a good thing you are the new wife and not just a new girlfreind. you have that authority and that right to speck up if you feel that your husband is being used by his ex. still to this day my husband's ex-wife kids (not his kids) but her kids calls him whenever trouble arises but they never call him other wise. just last month my husband's ex-wives sister and her 18 year old daughter was around the corner from our house at a grecery store with a flat tire. now his ex-wives sister is engaged to be married next month, but instead they called my husband to come and take them to get the tire and fix the car. i said " i wish you would go around there"! why cant she call your ex-wife (her sister) or her fiancee to come and help her? that is not your ******* problem! he said  that he is not that stupid  there was now way in h**l he was going to go through all that trouble for them. i felt that they were and they are still trying to use my husband. my point is i said something to him and not them. that is his place to stand up to his ex-wife not mines. if your husband is running over there every time they call you tell him that the next time he runs over there not to come back home to you, he can just stay over there with them!

Answer 3

Yeah you should.. It is not his responsibility to be taking care of her man needs.  

Answer 4

I think being open and upfront with your husband is the most important thing here. Make sure to carefully let him know that you are uncomfortable without placing any blame on him. He may get defensive then and it will not come across as you want it to. Hopefully, he will be receptive to it and make sure to have an appropriate relationship with her, according to what makes both of you comfortable.

Answer 5

NO YOUR HIS WIFE AND BEING OPEN AND HONEST WITH YOUR FEELINGS IS YOUR RIGHT. I THINK THAT IF HE LOVES AND RESPECTS YOU THEN HE SHOULD SEE THAT THIS IS BOTHERING YOU AND TELL HIS EX THAT SHE'S JUST GOING TO HAVE TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO DO THESE THINGS OR DO THEM HERSELF. THIS WORLD IS PRETTY BIG AND IM SURE THAT SHE HAS A FRIEND OTHER THAN HIM TO HELP HER OUT.  

Answer 6

You and your husband both need to set boundaries and let them be known.

Answer 7

Oh heck no!  I'd be flaming pissed if I were you.  I'd tell him that he needs to tell her NO and she needs to figure out how to do these things herself.  Not having a man around is a lame excuse...its 2008...she is just as capable.  

Answer 8

If it's the timing of the calls, then ask him to ask her not to call after 9pm (which is a good general rule).

If it's the doing favors, why are YOU fed up? It's HIM that's doing these favors. If he's happy to, then so be it.

If he's feeling used, or doesn't want to do so much, then it's up to him to talk to her about it.

What is the problem exactly? You've both moved on, and it seems she's not even interested in males; Or at least it's unlikely she's cheating with him while her girlfriend is there. If you're jealous, then you're just being silly.