Husband almost forgot my birthday!?

Question

My birthday is this coming monday. Last Tuesday I had to go to the ER for chest pains and due to the level of pain I was having my husband had to answer all the question and when they asked when my birthday was he had to look at my ID and I saw the look on his face the (Oh c**p it's in 6 days look.) Here is what has me spun up...HE NEVER FORGETS THE DOG'S BIRTHDAY ! His mother and I have a hate relationship trust me there is no love there ! ( I married her only child and she doesn't know how to let go) so it will be interesting to see if she forgets too. Hubby now wants to know what I want for my birthday....I feel like saying nothing now it is a little to late ! So God knows what I will get since it is a last minute gift.

I am hurt and pissed at the same time and don't know how to let it go.

Answer 1

I bet it was the high-stress situation.  I mean if my spouse was in the ER my thoughts would probably be focused on my spouse's safety, not on birthdays and celebrations, etc.  If he hasn't done this before, I think you can just let it go for now, but if it becomes routine, and happens next year too, tell him that it sucks that he can't remember your birthday.  

Answer 2

you are looking for a fight.  he didnt miss your bday.  you're jealous of the dog?  focus on whats important!

Answer 3

It was 6 days away... that isn't last minute.  Last minute would be running out Monday before or after work and getting you the first thing he sees off a sales rack.  That is last minute.   As you couldn't tell him what you wanted when he asked, then you may just end up with something you are going to have to return.

So, lets look at the scenario in the hospital from a different point of view... A husband is so stressed out because his wife is having chest pains, which could be life threatening,  and he can't answer even the simplest of questions.  He babbles his way through the questions and has to look at an ID for a birthdate.  

Cut him some slack and count your blessings that you are still around for this birthday.

As far as the MIL is concerned... let it go.  You knew what you were getting into when you married him.

Answer 4

Have you ever gone through something stressful and dropped the ball on something?  You are a serious pain in the butt if you're going to hold your husband to something like that.  He thought you were dying for God's sake, what more do you want?  Jerk!

Answer 5

How could he have forgotten your birthday when its not even here yet.

Now if he doesn't get you anything then that's the time to be hurt.

Answer 6

OMG  boo hoo for you,sounds to me like your self centered. h**l I forgot what my wife said to me yesterday.  sounds like your husband should go to the hosptial with a pain in his ***.

Answer 7

I hope all is well with the chest pains and all.                I wouldn't attribute that to much, most males tend to forget dates like that. Though he usually remembered in the past, his memory may be failing, the older her gets, stress at work. I would not hold it against him. Forgive him, now if he forgets another inmporant date say your anniversary, now there's a pattern.  My husband does not have a chance to forget our dates its listed on every calender in our home. Let him off the hook, he feels bad euough that he almost forgot, at least let him make it up to you with a significant gift! Best of Luck! Happy Birthday!

Answer 8

Almost only counts in Horse Shoes and Hand Grenades. Maybe he is under a lot of stress with your relationship and the condition. Plus you are not giving him any kind of chance. He is your husband, you know... As for the thing at the hospital, men don't take that kind of thing well. That is normal. It's sometimes hard to handle the emotions of an emergency plus the feeling of helplessness. If you have a problem with the guy, then have a frank talk to him about it. Don't be all negative, though. It's just like you feel that you're being attacked. And give him a chance- he is your husband. Good luck!

Answer 9

its understandable that you are anyone would get frustrated. But honestly hun, pick your battles. So even if he forgot he's still asking what you want for it and I bet you he feels sooo bad, and is just trying to make up for it. I know its hard but give him a break and try to let go, its just not worth it. In today's society we all get so busy and cought up in day to day things that we all forget some important dates sometimes.

Answer 10

you were in the hospital!!! with chest pains for gods sake!! i would be doing good to remember your name, much less your birthday!! get over it! quick...thats crazy...

Answer 11

A shotgun with some ammo might be in order.

Answer 12

tell him you want money at lest 100. then take yourself out on your birthday. go to dinner,get a hair cut,and buy yourself something pretty. maybe even some flowers to take home. try to come in late. then if he asks what you did just tell him i took myself out since you dont know how to ,or even remember to without being reminded.then on his birthday give him just a card. if he doesnt remember the date next year then you need to get used to it. on the dogs birthday make sure your out of the house and let him dote over the dog without you.