Husband always screaming, baby always crying..?

Question

Ever felt like everything you do, every decision you make is a mistake? I don't know what I could be doing so wrong. I feel like my husband is always screaming and the baby is always crying. But, I really thought I was a good wife and mother. I'm still in school so I know that I'm not bringing home that much money, just what my parents give me. But, they also pay a lot of my bills for me still, including my cell phone and insurance and still give me cash every week. I cook dinner, I clean the house, I am really good in bed..but nothing ever seems enough for Randy, he's still always screaming at me. I take very good care of my son, he has the best of everything, I play with him all day, we go to the park all the time, he used to be such a calm and happy baby, but now all he does is cry. I just don't know what I am doing wrong. I feel like I can't do anything right. I only have one month of nursing school left and then I will be making a lot of money. But, my husband still always says you are gonna be just like your biological mom, just run away and not deal with your responsibilities. But, I am not like her I dont even know her. (The parents I refered to earlier are really my aunt and uncle they raised me) I've never done anything to make him think that, except for about a month I was going out a lot with my friends, but I was pregnant the whole time I was 21 and I just wanted to make up for that. I always made sure the baby was fed and put to bed before I went out though. He just seems so distant, he wont even feed or change the baby I DO EVERYTHING. I just feel like I'm at the end of my rope with everything but I will not be like my biological mother and run away so what do I do?

Answer 1

You should not be taking this horrible emotional abuse. He should

be supportive, understanding and more helpful. He has mental

problems and I would get the h**l out  of there. Your parents

probably see this already. He has NO right to speak to you that way.

My ex was the same, stupid, ignorant and grossly immature.  We

divorced and it was the best thing. He sounds like a total creep.

Get out of there and tell him unless he gets counseling you are done. He could have a  girlfriend which is what happened with

mine,he was distant, argumentative, and obnoxious.  Please  get

away  from him and  get some peace in your life.

Answer 2

You are being abused in this relationship with your husband.He is checked out of this relationship and doesn't want anything to do with it so he is screaming at you in frustration because he really wants you to leave.  He will then say that you were no good and ran away from your problems but so what.  You will be taking the high and better road.

That may sound harsh but the sooner you wake up and make a life on your own, the better.   THe baby is no doubt crying all the time because of the unbelievable tension in his environment.  THey know when mom is tense, they are very sensitive.  

Talk to your parents.  Tell them you want to break from your husband and then finish school and make your own life.  You don't need a husband who a.  can't support you or the child  b.  doesn't support you emotionally  c.  abuses you emotionally and verbally  d.  does nothing for you anyways.  

What has he done for you lately.  

Answer 3

put husband in timeout

rock or walk with the baby...

Answer 4

You can run away from your husband with your baby. Even with all your love towards the baby, he can still sense if something is wrong and he can be affected by the screaming your husband does. He can be affected by how he is ignored by his father. It is time to stand your ground and tell him to stop treating you like dirt or you and the kid will be out of there. I'm sure your parents will help you with your last month of school by letting you stay with them.

Emotional abuse is still abuse. Please seek help. It is hurting your child as well as you.  

Answer 5

just keep doing what you do and be a good mom to your child. My guess would be that your baby can feel all the tension and stress in the house and it makes him uncomfortable and therefore cry. And it sounds like your husband needs to grow up a little bit.

Answer 6

Sorry to say but your husband sounds like a dirtbag.  That is emotional abuse and you don't have to take it.  The baby is probably crying all the time because he picks up on the upset you're feeling, they're very intuitive.

You obviously have your c**p together, you have parents that love you and are willing to help.  Leave your husband (take your son).  In a few months you'll be back on your feet in a big way and he'll be all alone...like he deserves.

Answer 7

well it sounds like you are a great person who wants something out of life. And it sounds like your husband don't like that fact that you are an independent women so his trying to bring you down and you don't need that I'm your life so you should set him down and talk to him and tell him how you feel. But just keep your head up and keep God first and pray about everything. Keep doing what you are doing and make sure that you and your son is happy and remember that you have to be happy first before trying to make others happy.

Good luck and God bless.  

Answer 8

I have a question.  If you have a husband why are you still living off your parent's money?  I don't know how old the baby is but it could be anything from colic to teething or worse.  Some husbands get moody when a baby comes in to the picture and maybe that's what going on with yours.  I'd suggest counseling.

Answer 9

You are not the problem. If this is the child's Father then he needs to step up to the plate. He might need anger management and stress counseling. Do you two spend anytime together alone? See if your parents will babysit one night a month. See if he will agree to counseling. If you can't afford it, look into Christian counseling at one of the local churches. There are also many secular (non-religious) counseling places that will base their rates on your income. Reach out for help even if he won't go. You and your family need peace. Pray about it. Seek help.  

Answer 10

thats tough,and the poor baby suffers this way,i hope hes not abusing your baby when you are gone for school.please you have to do something before it get worse,i have watch a lot of abused child and i hope this will not happen to you.good luck!