Husband and I are not compatible?

Question

sexualy. He wants it almost every night and I want it like once or twice a week only. Poor him also masturbates a lot... he has a huge s*x drive.

What is the solution for us? We have a kid too and I dont think separation is a good idea..

Should I let him have physical contact with some others (using protection) or what should we do?

He respects me a lot but his s*x drive also is killing him..

Any advice?

Answer 1

Are you crazy? why would you LET your partner cheat? seriously I dont know, marriage means nothing to anyone these days does it?

Is he pleasing you? maybe thats why you dont want it, but theres more to relationships than s*x, his s*x drive isnt killing him, plenty of people have high s*x drives and they dont go around sleeping with random people, cant he practice some self control?

Yeah and Im a man but that wifely duties comment was stupid, s*x isnt a duty, its something that should be enjoyed with consent, never imposed, nobody owes s*x to anyone else. fact

Answer 2

I wish I had your problem by the way there is no such thing as wifely duties"-whoever says that has never been married" and doesn't realize how stupid they sound. If that's the case what about husbandly duties??

Answer 3

Yea i got advice have s*x with your husband whenever he wants it.

Answer 4

Has it always been this way or is this a new occurrence? Did your s*x drive change after you had a baby? That's pretty common, it's just biology. BUT don't let your husband go outside the marriage.  This will just doom your marriage.  Talk to him & maybe you two can compromise.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I have heard of such men. Too bad for the woman who is more like you and like me.

Cannot imagine the possibility of it working if you are so OPEN to wish him getting intimate outside your home.  Cannot work for you  or your child.

You will have to negotiate this between yourselves.  Him less (or in the shower) and you a bit more.  Lots of women would love to have some of this problem.

Good wishes.

Answer 6

Yeah let him! If you cant/wont do your wifely duties let him find it else where!

Answer 7

I don't see any problem here.  Two people who love each other generally feel the desire together. Give him all he wants, after a while he might calm down.  DO NOt suggest he find someone else unless you are looking for a divorce.

Answer 8

maybe if u watch p**n it might turn u on bit more!!

Answer 9

The first thing you need to do is figure out why your s*x drive is low and try to help get it back.  I was in your situation and it's not fun without being horny and feeling in the mood when needed.  I also felt like my orgasms (if I would even get one) were really weak.  Probably because of my s*x drive.

However, I tried exercising and dieting but nothing seemed to be working.  I thought I was screwed.  I then found something just as amazing as the vibrator.

My friend at work told me about this stuff she took to raise her s*x drive.  It was a natural herbal supplement and was I lucky to of found it.  Theres no side effects and the s*x drive is just tremendous along with orgasms that are blasting.  The stuff is called Hersolution pills.  At the time I saved money on them at herenhancement.com

What I did was tried out for 3 months and that was really it.  I found taking them every other day or so was the best to stretch it out. After the months were up, I was back to normal with a beating s*x drive and my o****m strength in increased so much.  

Well good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 10

You better become more sexual or he will find someone that is.  Respect or not, one person in a relationship can only go so long without being satisfied.  A lot of women would love to be having this problem.

Answer 11

Maybe you have a medical issue.  Try talking to your doctor.  If  you can rule that out try other things.  Watch p**n together, that might turn you on.  If p**n isn't for you try toys or just different things until you find what works.  It sounds like you have a good husband that loves you.  Don't let him go just because of s*x.  Find something that works for you.

Answer 12

When one of you wants more s*x than the other you need to talk it out, pretty much negotiate. He wants it every day and there are 7 days a week. How about you do it half of the week, one day yes, one day no.

s*x is actually a good thing and it does help your relationship to have better communication and have more trust with one another, as long as you´re both comfortbale, happy and satisfied EQUALLY and with MUTUAL agreement. If you have all of these you´re good to go.

If you don´t, then you have a problem. You need to talk it out each listening and understanding and ready for change.

What worries me is how open you are to let him be with other people? Please don´t tell me you really think that´s going to be the solution. That is absolutely crazy and it would take me too long to tell you why. But when you´re married, you don´t share it with anybody.

If he respect you a lot, keep it that way and just negotiate the s*x thing. Remember you have a son. He needs two loving parents and a stable home.