Husband and military pay...?

Question

My husband of one year is in the Army National Guard and we have a 2 year old son together. In January of this year, he walked out and haven't lived with us since. We tried to work things out, but he left again after cheating on me. He has helped some financially in the past by allowing funds that he receives from training to go to my bank account. Recently however, he has changed the bank account information and me and my son are receiving nothing inthe way of support from him. Keep in mind, we are still married and he gets a BAH w/Dep on his LES statement.

Some that I have talked to say that me and my son are entitled to the money and that we should be getting money anyway, even though he is not on active duty yet. I told them that they are incorrect in thinking that, but that I really don't know how things work.

Are me and my son entitled to the BAH money that he is receiving? Who should I contact about this information?

Answer 1

I would first attempt to contact his First Sergeant.

Answer 2

If you know what unit he's attached to, contact the Commanding Officer.  Alternatively, call 888-777-7731.  That's the number to the National Guard Bureau's Family Programs office.  The should be able to help you.  More numbers on their site (see source)

Answer 3

Contact his commanding officer, they will see that you get your pay.  

Answer 4

he gets bah for his family..so yes you are entitled too it..more importantly you are entitled to child support for your child..best thing you can do is get a hold of his chain of command...they can sit down and talk to him...because once you get him into court..he isnt going to have a choice...he is going to have to pay..and he will have to pay from the day he left you...not the day it goes to court....and yes there is a difference in paying and being ordered to pay....its his kid you are his wife...he should be helping you out...its a matter of being a dad and a husband..not some ***

Answer 5

you should contact his commander and first shirt.  even if you are not divorced he should be supporting you.  or just go ahead and file for a divorce to get the alimony and child care started.

Answer 6

The short answer is YES. BAH w/dependent is for the family members.

Step one, go to the local Judge Advocate General's office and tell them you want legal representation. Do this tomorrow. Do NOT wait.

Then contact his unit first sergeant and have a discussion about your husband not providing for you as is required by regulations (AR 608-99) specifically:

1–5. Management of personal affairs

a. The Army recognizes the transient nature of military duty. This regulation, however, prohibits the use of a

soldier’s military status or assignment to deny financial support to family members or to evade court orders on

financial support, child custody and visitation, paternity, and related matters.

b. Soldiers are required to manage their personal affairs in a manner that does not bring discredit upon themselves

or the U. S. Army. This responsibility includes—

(1) Maintaining reasonable contact with family members so that their financial needs and welfare do not become

official matters of concern for the Army (see para 2–1).

(2) Conducting themselves in an honorable manner with regard to parental commitments and responsibilities (see

chap 2).

(3) Providing adequate financial support to family members (see paras 2–3 through 2–9).

In your case, Para 2-6 would seem to apply the most.

Should his command not be conducive to your request, then go back and talk to your JAG Attorney.

Answer 7

he doesn't GET BAH as a Guard member unless he is activated for more than 30 days.  

regardless, no you are not entitled to it.  it is an allowance to HIM not you.  

You need a court order for child support.  

Answer 8

National Guardsmen do not recieve BAH, unless they are activated for more than 30 days.

All your entitled to, is what the Judge ordered him to pay in your divorce decree.

Answer 9

My husband said that you are entitled to money from his BAH.  His BAH pay is based on how many dependents he has listed and also he gets more because he is married.

Contact your husbands First Sgt. about this as soon as you can.  Explain to him that you are not living together right now but he hasn't been helping out.  He can also get into huge trouble for cheating.  

Answer 10

You guys are both entitled to every cent of BAH he is receiving. You should first try and contact his 1SG if you cannot get him go directly to his commander. He is lying about having and paying for his dependants. That could be something major down the road.