Husband argues that medical help will be more bills..he said no that God will fix it?

Question

What should a wife do if she thinks she needs medical help? But her husband says that it will mean more bills to pay. If there was no money I could understand. But we have enough saved up for it. We have medical insurance so that pays part of it. I am having problems have been for a long time. And think I may need a hysterectomy. I already tried other things and they didn't work. Do you think I should just make the necessary appointments, and the heck with what he says? He said that he will pray for me. That I shouldn't seek medical help. That God will fix the problem. And that if the problem continues that it was meant to be.

Answer 1

That's incredible.  Where do you think medical doctors get the intelligence and ability to help us with our medical issues?  They are God-given gifts and he wouldn't have bestowed them upon them if we weren't meant to use them.  You're husband is a nutcase.

Answer 2

Explain to him that you agree that God will fix your problem.  God did, indeed, give doctors the intelligence to learn in medical school how to diagnose and treat health problems.  Then make your appointments and do what you need to make yourself healthy.

Answer 3

Make your medical appointment. If you have a medical problem that needs attention, get it done. The attitude your husband has is beyond 18 th century thinking and is supremely ignorant. The is no supernatural power who listens to each person's personal prayer requests and fixes their problem. His statement is open ended and if you took his advise, he would always be right. How stupid to have such beliefs.

Answer 4

Make an appointment and see a doctor. Your health is one of your most important assets. If your husband is in doubt of whether medical attention is necessary, he should come with you to the doctor and hear what the medical professionals have to say.

Maybe next time he asks what's for dinner you should tell him to pray for the dinner to appear in front of him. Would he do that? I think not. Then why "pray" for your health when what you need to do is fix it?

Answer 5

Sound to me like he's praying to God to hasten your demise.

Answer 6

do you already have kids? maybe he is freaking out because you will not be able to have kids after a hysterectomy. guys are weird like that. if you need help go get it before your problem gets to bad. God gave the doctors the brains to fix you so that is how God will fix you  

Answer 7

I think that you should get the medical help and ask him to help you pray that everything goes smoothly.  You sometimes can't rely on God only for such situations, but ask God to be there for every step of the way.

Answer 8

Wow.  Well, I'd tell him that God provided medical science and doctors and that you don't see the harm in seeking help.  I wouldn't do it behind his back, but I'd tell him that I'm making the appointments regardless of his beliefs.  You need to take care of your body!

I'm a Christian and his theology is way off base.  God can intervene and heal but we should use the sense He gave us and the resources He's provided (medical insurance, the finances to pay the bills) and take care of ourselves as well as having faith that He can heal.