Husband asking for too much?

Question

he wants my attention every night aswell as s*x i am looking after a newborn a 10 month old and a 4 year old so i am just finding it too much

Answer 1

don't worry about it...he'll find a girlfriend pretty soon and won't ask for so much any more

Answer 2

Tell him that you need help with the kids, after all they are his kids too!!  I would give him more responsibility when it comes to the kids then you wont be so tired.  Be glad he wants your attention and isn't out looking else where like some of the other peoples spouses on here.  Best of luck!

Answer 3

I know it's hard saying no; tell me about it, but just let him know how you feel, or get into an agreement that he can help and you can help him!! hee hee

Answer 4

Yep....he's expecting way to much.  You seem to have a lot of responsibility on your plate.... perhaps he should kick in and help a little more in the evenings.

Answer 5

You are going to have to try to change the tone of the conversation.  YOU have 2 kids to watch?  Give HIM the older of the two.  You're friggin' tired at the end of the day make him tired.

More diplomatically put.  If he wants action, he going to have to make sure you are not exhausted at the end of the day.  If that means doing dishes, and vacuuming, or taking one or both of the kids for a while, so be it.

Men never get enough s*x, I'd do it every day if I could.  I know I'd accept the deal just to get regular "attention".

Answer 6

3 kids under 5, and he wants s*x every night?  What is he on?  

Sorry, but in our house, our youngest is only 3, our oldest 16, and with 2 businesses, our lives are so exhausting, I think we could only dream of s*x that often (but then, we don't have 5 minute sessions).

I think your husband is asking way too much.  You must be exhausted.  

I like the tip about making him help around the house, but not only because it will make you less tired, but because maybe he will empathise a little as to why you are so tired!

I would definitely talk to him about how you feel.  If he loves and respects you, he will listen and respect your feelings about it and agree to work it out in a way that suits both of you.

Answer 7

I think you should ask him to give you what you want like a massage (pick the type you like the best...anything goes)...Babe, he's a man...if you won't have s*x with him...he will find a way to compensate. You may not like the method(s) he picks. Take Care

Answer 8

Oh my..sounds hectic..I also have 3 children... 9, 3 and 2, its so exhausting. Do yourself a favor and make sure you don't fall pregnant again!  I have had my tubes tied.  My s*x drive was super low after birth and for a while after that and I developed post natal depression, which can really make matters hard to handle and anti depression tabs can make it even worse. Your husband needs to be more sensitive, have you told him how you feel?  Hope you feel better soon

Answer 9

divorce him asap

Answer 10

Are you familiar with the word "no"?

Answer 11

well i say that you should sit down with him and tell him how you feel. say "honey i love making love with you, but we can not have this kind of enviorment with our babies around. i am sorry but it needs to settle down a little, but i do love you despite what you may think right now." i hope that i helped:) good luck:)

Answer 12

That's a lot of work!  Trust me I know.  I run an in-home day care and I have 4 kids aged 4, 2, 22 months, and 18 months!!!  Phew!

Your children are very important, but your spouse needs to be your priority.  Of course do not let your children's needs go neglected, however you need to spend time with your spouse too.  Maybe your husband should be helping you with the children when he gets home?  Then you have quality time together, and the children are also cared for.  Then once the children go down, that's time for the two of you.  You should pay one another attention and strengthen your bond as a married couple, however that doesn't mean you have to have s*x.

Sit down with your husband and explain all this.  Tell him you want to spend time with him (he should have your attention!) but that the kids are hard work.  Ask him to spend time with you as a family, all four of you. Then once the children go to bed the two of you can spend your quality time together.

Explain that you don't want to have s*x every single night.  You're tired, and sometimes just not in the mood.  Tell him how often you'd like it (approximately) and shoot for a number somewhere in the middle of every single day and however often you want it.  Both of you should be happy, not just one of you!

Good luck. :)

Answer 13

You have complete control and if he doesn't like what you want to give him then kick him to the curb, because you are supposed to make each other happy, not yourselves.  

Just focus on taking care of the baby and the child!