Husband favors his daughter from a previous marriage-what do I do?

Question

We have been married 10 months, and he has a son (11) and two daughters (3 and 18 months) from a previous relationship. I have a daughter (5) from a previous marriage, and we just had a baby girl 3 weeks ago. Now, when he has visitation with his kids, I can tell that he favors one of his daughters over all of the other kids, and it makes me resent her and get irritated with her. What can I do to fix the problem? I want my marriage to work!

Answer 1

Why would you get mad with her it isn't her fault this will lead to probs of she picks up on it I wouldn't want to be around someone who resents me but I think that you should talk to him about this  bc i'm sure that if you have noticed then the kids have noticed and it's not good for them.

Answer 2

As much as we all like to think we love all of our kids equally, we all favor one over others. Often other people can see it more than we can ourselves, no matter how hard we try to cover it and be equal with all of the kids.

I am somewhat aware of it in myself. I have more in common with one son than with my other son or my daughter and tend to give him more attention for it. But because my FIL is so obvious in his own favorite child and grandchild I am aware of my tendencies to pay more attention to one child and am careful to back off and give my other kids more attention.

Let your husband know how obvious it is, even if he's not aware of it, and how it's hurting the others. If he's a good dad he will go out of his way to give the other kids a little more attention.

Answer 3

Get over it, I guess.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to sit him down and talk to him about how it makes you feel. If he doesn't get to see his other kids very much then maybe you need to be more understanding.