Husband going to clubs to promote new job should i be mad?

Question

My husband new job has alot of outings like clubs and bars to promote new shop. I have been quiet but now I'm like dang every weekend?? Should I be mad because he is not the clubbing type but his boss is. He tells me he is trying to meet new people to promote business but every week end. I don't want to jump to conclusions but two nights he stayed out till 4am. I'm like i don't like this. your boss is not married you are. He is like i understand but I'm trying to grow clientele. I don't know what to do. I told him you don't have to jump to every outing but dang 4am. I wake up in the middle out night thinking some women in his face....advice please.

Answer 1

Staying out 'til 4am when he has a wife at home is ridiculous and you have perfect right to be mad. He should also have no problem in taking you with him.

Too much of that is going to ruin your marriage. I could almost guarantee it.

Answer 2

I'd probably be mad. Not specifically about the clubbing but when a job is taking so much precedence over a marriage then a whole host of other issues could start. You two need some of that time to re-connect with each other. Its just not healthy for him to be doing it EVERY weekend. He probably really is just "working" but his job could start affecting your marriage which could eventually make him take up those opportunities from club hopping. There are a lot of easy girls and bar flies out there. It's not hard to get laid. Don't throw accusations his way but be careful and make sure you two are getting plenty of couple time even if its during the other parts of the week.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Well what I'd say is if he's staying out until 4am in the morning around midnight find him, and take him his pjama's and tell him good night one it would maybe break the habbit of the bar scenes or he will start coming home at a decent hour at night time.. that way to you'll know whats really going on... best of luck keep me updated..

Answer 4

You are right he should not be out for that long hours leaving you alone wondering and waiting every minute or him ,i can understand wife waitng for the hsuband in the night(although iam a husband to a very beautiful and loving wife)but i can understand the feelings.

Again you are saying that he is doing this for the job sake and indirectly he is doing this for you and your house so be supportive to him but tell him sweetly that you are always waiting desperatly for him when he is out and it is nit that necessary to go out for the promotion of the job every weekend an iam sure when the beautiful wife whisper things in the ear while lying down by yourside things can be understood and changed .

Try this dont spoil things by getting mad at 4am it will always aggrevate a man when his wife strart shouting when he comes home from somewhere give him sometime with him and then when he is with you,you can then make your point.

pls let me know te results as iam confident that it works.

Answer 5

No.

You should be asking yourself why you are married to him if you do not trust him.

So.

Do you trust him?

Answer 6

Is there a reason he can't take you with him?  Or you just "happen" to show up at the club he's at?  If he's absolutely adamant about not taking you, yeah I'd be real mad.  Is he trying to grow clientele or "pick up" clientele? Hmmmmmmm, I'd wonder...

Answer 7

It sounds to me he's using his boss and his job as an excuse to you. A clean and faithful married man will always go home on time to his family or wife and make sure that his weekends spend only to his family. Once in awhile yes he can go out with his boss and build up clientele rapport but still have to go home at a reasonable time and not every weekend.

Since it bothers you now..why don't you do some a little agenda where you'll find out and prove to yourself that he's actually telling you the truth? That way you don't need to sit and wait for him to come home but makes you worried.  

Answer 8

I would be upset too.  I think you should talk to him about it and see if he REALLY has to go to the club or bars ask does he really have to stay out until 4am.  Not real sure what type of job he has and what type of clients he's trying to get but he should keep in mind he is a married man, and I'm sure he wouldn't want you to stay out at that time of morning. You should tell him that you don't like the every weekend going out and the staying out until 4am and he needs to try to make an effort to change because it bothers you.  Good luck.

Answer 9

i think you need to find a time to talk to your husband when you are calm and collected.  don't accuse him of doing anything, just explain to him how you feel about the situation.  i repeat don't accuse him of any wrong doing because this will only make him defensive.  if you are both committed to working it out and you communicate you can work through this but don't expect it to be an overnight fix.  

Answer 10

If it's bothering you so much, then why not join him and enjoy yourself too.