Husband has no desire to make love.?

Question

I am 26 years young and my husband is 25. We've been married for almost 2 years now and for the past couple of months or so, I noticed his desire to make love is basically gone. I told him that s*x is very important to me and that if I dont get it from him then I have to seek out somebody else, which worked for a while. And another thing, his buddy has moved in with us about a month ago, but i don't think that really poses as an issue. But before all this we would get busy maybe 3-5 times a week, now its more like once a month, twice if we're lucky. I recently found some p**n he's been stashing in his bag, trying to hide it in the laundry room and its not just your ordinary p**n videos, it was transgender p**n. I was terrified and very sad at the same time. All this is making me think he wants that and not me anymore. He'd rather do his business alone than make love to me. I am so confused and sad right now. Can anyone help!?!

Answer 1

omg what if hes having s*x with his buddy

Answer 2

keep a watchful eye upon him ,he might be interested somewhere else

Answer 3

maybe he left the p**n for you to find. cause he couldn't tell you. be sad that he didn't know this about himself earlier, but glad you found out early on. let him know that this is confusing and that you can't (or can maybe?) live with things this way, that both of you deserve to be happy. maybe accept and move on or accept and stay. actually lots of people have open relationships...I'm not one of them. and I was 27 when I met my husband so 'years young' is so so right. we now have 3 kids. life has just begun, choose what's right for you, as he has. and you'll be happy.

(if you can do it you could suggest being "the guy" with a strap on, again I couldn't) I hope this makes you feel a little less sad and less confused.

Answer 4

Flush his weed.

Answer 5

Sounds like it's time four a 3-some. You want someone else if not him he wants guys thin u can see how he reacts to you or him.

Answer 6

Wow, maybe he doesn't find you attractive anymore.  This could lead to cheating.  Maybe he's g*y, which is very probable, given you found transgender p**n in his stash.  You just never know these days.  Ask him about it, and tell him to be honest.  It always disappoints me when a man doesn't trat his woman right.  

"Just tell your woman that you're sorry

And you jumped out of your skin"- The Killers (Move Away)

Answer 7

do the girl thang,take off all your clothing and lay on him what ever it take sometime mens are like battery you have to jump start them.

Answer 8

Your husband may be doing tha shaboinga with his buddy.

Answer 9

d**n, honey, Where do you live. I'd get with you and show you how a woman should be treated in bed.

Answer 10

I'm sorry this is going on, but if my husband told me that if I didn't give him any he'd seek out somebody else, I'd divorce him. That's so childish.

Answer 11

First, try to get the friend to leave and get his own place...Three is a crowd. You have only been married for a short time and you need time to bond and grow as a married couple. Second, confront him about the lack s*x and the p**n videos...It's one thing to do things as a couple but he is clearly already keeping things from you even in the early stages of marriage. Yikes! Third, get your hair and nails done and buy yourself a s**y dress....Take him out to dinner and then remind him how awesome you are when you get home.

Answer 12

I seriously suggest you two go to counseling and pronto! If he refuses to go, then go it alone. You guys are too young to be in a sexless marriage! I'm sorry this is the only advice I can give you, but it's really the only option, especially if you've already tried confronting him about it. Also, isn't it a little weird that his buddy just moved in and now he has no desire for s*x? I don't want to say it, but he may be g*y. Good luck dear, I hope you get through this!

Answer 13

honey sit back and process what you just asked the yahoo world.(trans gender p**n, his male buddy , and your not getting it) OPEN YOUR EYES.

Answer 14

Well, it sounds like his buddy is also his lover.  He is obviously turned on by d**k.  So I would suggest you get divorced from him and find a real man who can handle your needs.  In my opinion, your husband just found out he is g*y.

Answer 15

It is time to investigate to see if he is into his buddy or on the DL.

Answer 16

he must be g*y do some research spy on him  

Answer 17

This may be easier said than done but... get a divorce.  Life is too short to be unhappy and unless you are willing to find a way to participate in his fetish, and I'm betting your not, your relationship probably already has an expiration date.

Answer 18

his buddy moved in and you do not think that does not affect you relationship?

it does!!!

gone is yours ( and his ) sense of privacy and intimacy

and if he is looking at trans gender p**n, then it time to leave him

as his buddy my be more than just a buddy.....

divorce and move on

you married too young

and now you see what that got you

Answer 19

I think your husband is g*y. If you don't have any kids leave him ASAP!

Answer 20

I don't blame him for not wanting to have s*x with you anymore,if i cant get s*x from you i will find it elsewhere what a horrible thing to say to your spouse so much for the wedding vows aye.Have you ever thought about how saying that to him would make him feel?you cant be that cold of a person.As far as the g*y p**n goes id have to say he probably likes men and women.But i still cant get over the i will find somebody else part maybe you and him need to sit down and have a serious talk about things.To be able to make a statement like that to your spouse and not feel horrible about it is very telling in your attitude towards marrage.

Answer 21

I think you blew if when you resorted to other s*x partners. Don't continue guessing. Sit him down and CALMLY demand an answer. It's possible he's fixated on t-girls or wants to be one, but the p**n videos don't necessarily mean that. If he refuses any answer, get to a counselor to help you move toward a decision.  

Answer 22

Your husband is weird, I am 39 the wife and i make love 2-3 times a week, 2nd never have looked at that type of p**n. When we was your guy's age we fooled around like 3-4 times  a week, his friend might have something to do with it. but sound like that c**p turns him on and not you..Try to talk to him, that's the best I can offer