Husband hit me while he was asleep?

Question

Our baby sleeps in his crib next to our bed. My baby is 8 months old and is teething. Last night, my baby was fussy so I kept getting in and out of bed trying to get him to stay asleep; his teeth were bugging him. One of the times I jumped out and back into bed, my husband smacked my on the head and said, "let him try to sleep by himself" and rolled over again and was asleep. It hurt really bad and I had ringing in my ear; luckily my little baby fell asleep and I didn't move again b/c I was freaked out, he's never done anything like this before. I asked him this morning and he said, "wow are you serious, I must've been dreaming something" then when I kept asking him about it he said, "wow hun, I really don't remember" I said aren't you going to say sorry, he said, "yea sorry, I really don't remember doing anything like that. He's never been violent.. we have our screaming matches sometimes when we fight, but we never stay mad at each other when we fight, we always make up.. it was just weird.. I don't know what to think.. any thoughts?

Answer 1

Owned why your was sleeping lol i wouldnt worry to much like he said prolly just a mistake  

Answer 2

He was half asleep to the point he does not even remember the incident. You say he has never been this way, then trust his answer and accept his apology. Tell him playfully, "it better not happen again", and forget the incident.  

Answer 3

You should of slapped the living shiiit out of him and kicked his azz out of the bed and showed your furious anger and hollered loudly:"don't you ever lay another hand on me again or next time when you go to sleep I will take a knife and cut your balls off."  

Answer 4

Just write it off as an isolated thing he did because he was half asleep. A couple of weeks ago my wife told me that I woke her up in the middle of the night because I was talking in my sleep and that I grabbed her arm with both of my hands and tried to bite her wrist! :) I had absolutely no recollection of that happening.  

Answer 5

huahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahaha...

Answer 6

i think he was mostly asleep and he's telling the truth, if he didnt remember it was hard for him to apologize, but he did right, so just let it go.

although he should be a little more helpful with the baby too, its hard dealing with a teething baby, (very stressful)  mine is 16 months and STILL wakes a few times during the night, teething or not, its hard work.

accept his apology, and ask him for some help with the baby tonight.

Answer 7

My wife did the same thing sleep walking the other night to me.  Started hitting my back and then shot out of bed opened the closet and then went back to sleep like nothing had happened...  Next day I asked her what was up and she has no memory of any of it.  I really think its just a sleepwalking epesode nothing to worry about.

Answer 8

Well, a lot of people are cranky when you wake them up. He was probably really tired and didn't think when he hit you. But I say you slap him when he's sleeping. :)

Answer 9

Wow.. I would have turned around and woke his *** up-- like.. WTF You hit me!.. BUT.. when you are sleep.. you're not all there. I've hit my friend during a sleepover.. and it was quite funny.He probably meant to nudge you.. or slap you on the arm.. who knows.. but I dont think he really knew what he was doing. Forgive him...

Answer 10

He was sleep and it was an accident.  There is nothing to think.  If he continues however, then maybe you should consider your sleeping arrangements at least until you put the baby in another room.  you can buy a baby monitor ya know

Answer 11

I think it was hurtful i'm sorry it happend. It's crazy hard being a mom. It would have totally hurt my feeling we would have talked about right when it happen i would have woke him back up after he rolled over.  

Answer 12

It definitely just sounds like a case of sleep-hitting, sort of like sleep walking. you don't really have much control over what you do in your sleep. I'd say forgive him, but keep an eye out. Only if it starts to happen a lot would i be concerned...

Answer 13

lol, well i never hit my wife in my sleep... But i did sling a cat across the room and it hit the wall with a loud enough thud to wake my wife up.  I woke up the next morning with a huge scratch on my arm asking my wife how the heck i got it.

Answer 14

no biggy he was sleeping my husband can hold a conversation with me in his sleep i would not worry about it  

Answer 15

I´ve heard about that before and it is possible for a person to unconsciously hit someone else while asleep. I wouldn´t hold it against him as long as you are sure of his personality (you are his wife so you should know).

In my personal opinion I think it´s better for the marital situation overall if the baby sleeps in his own room. If the teeth are so much of a discomfort surely there´s some sort of relief a naturopath or doctor could recommend because going to him all the time in the night only encourages him to want you more.

Answer 16

Ha haa !! Well i got my laugh for the day . We all do nutting things in our sleep . One night there was flashing lights coming in our bedroom window well it was the water company fixing a broken line . Anyway i ran outside in my underwear yelling . THERE INVADING THERE INVADING ! lol my wife came out and rescued me . All i remember is waking up standing there in my underwear . Im sure your husband was dreaming . Ha haa thanks for the laugh .

Answer 17

Tell he's in big trouble if he does it again. Take his word on the first one.

Answer 18

well since he has never done it before I think you should just forgive him and be done... I will bet you he was dreaming and was dreaming about it... I have done this before i talk in my sleep so its really nothing to get worked up over... he apologized and it probably won't ever happen again

Answer 19

well i believe him when he said he doesn't remember he was asleep and my husband has said that i have done similar things like hitting him or calling him names and i don't recall it because i was asleep!lol i wouldn't be to hard on him but if he does it again hit him back!

Answer 20

Regarding the smack, the subconscious often manifests itself during sleep. Your husband does not otherwise seem like a violent man. Having a baby is a stressful event between a husband and wife, and differences in child-rearing beliefs can further increase tension. The smack may have been a subconscious manifestation of this tension. Please note how in your question you first refer to the child as "our baby" but then everytime thereafter, the child is referred to as "my baby". Are you a dictator parent? Try being more open to your husband's ideas regarding the rearing of your child. Specifically, consider moving the crib away from the bed and letting the child go back to sleep on his own.  He is 8 months old and no longer an infant.  

Answer 21

He was asleep and didn't know what he was doing! My husband has never hit me while sleeping, but has done some odd things, like got up and walked around aimlessly. It was pretty funny. I wouldn't worry about it, just be careful getting in and out of bed!!

Answer 22

wow. make him get up with the baby

Answer 23

It was a mistake, more than likely he was more asleep than awake when he did that. If he's never put a hand on you before or made you feel like he would than just put this behide you. I elbowed my girlfriend in the eye once when we where alseep, I don't remember doing it but she woke up screeming and punch me in the nutz, then we had a laugh about the whole thing in the morning. She had a black eye and her parents joke around that I beat her, but they know that I would never hurt her. But my nutz will never sleep soundly ever again.  

Answer 24

let it go.  sounds like he truly feels bad.