Husband is always tired and never has energy for foreplay and love making!!!!!!?

Question

Me and my hubby would have been married 2 years in about a few hours :) However, I'm 24 and he is 30, he is always so tired for anything, he can fall asleep as early as 8pm. At first I talked to him and he always promises to try to do better but nothing happens. I thought it was cus he worked and I stayed home with our 2 kids but now I work and we both get up at the same time. and I get home 1 hour before him and I still have to cook, clean,and take care of our daughters. At the end of the night when we get in bed between 10&11 pm i still have energy for him, just cuddling, and yes making love. I have tried to be understanding but I can't continue to be lonely and second guessing myself because I feel rejected at him. Just tonight, I am in my s**y lingerie, we get in bed, he just lays there in bed, i touchin, kissing,etc... to him, as im kissing him, i start to feel his muscles relax and next thing u know he is falling asleep, i listen for a few moments and then he starts to snore. What am I to do. We have been married almost 2 years and this has been happening for a while. He says he is still attractive to me and we do have s*x, but only if i start it or if he has gone a long time without it. I feel if he has time to play PS3 till1130pm then he can have time for his wife, 1 night before their 2nd anniversary. Please help. I love him and want to work this issue out, but he doesn't act like he tries. When I mention it to him, he gets mad at me and says how tired he is cus he works. Well we both do and I still take care of home and him.........Help me please, what should I do?

Answer 1

Take care of yourself.  Dont make this a chore for him.  He knows you are interested, he will come to you when he is ready.

Answer 2

Something is making him tired.

If it's work, adjust your living so he works less.

if it's to much TV(or something else) fine a noninvasive way to separate him from it.

Take charge... without being aggressive.

Answer 3

He sounds like he is bored with you! How hard is is job? Just cause yopu work the same maybe his is harder work and he is 30 older men are tired! It wont change! I have been married 4 years and are s*x life is great. He also may have another girl on the side!

Answer 4

u need me to *** over when he's away

Answer 5

I would push it with him and tell him this must be resolved/you must talk about it.  Sounds like you need some counseling and schedule a date night without the kids.

Answer 6

I don't understand your problem, sorry! s*x isn't all there is to love. Why not stop pressuring him, give him a little breathing space, cuddle into him and fall asleep. Perhaps see if someone can take the kids for a couple of days or the weekend and spend some time just the two of you. You can't expect him to be a robot and when he's relaxed he may surprise you with some love in the afternoon. Go out for lunch, men feel more human after they've eaten. I think you're trying too hard, just have some fun and some time together alone. You haven't mentioned contraception, maybe he's worried you may get pregnant again. He doesn't sound like a man having an affair to me, they usually have an abundance of energy caused by their rise in hormone levels. They generally start looking at their wardrobes, buying new clothes, having a new hairstyle, watching their diet and wearing aftershave more often. Ditch the lingerie, pull on a pair of jeans, take him out for a walk, have fun and go naked in bed.

Answer 7

he could have a girlfriend

and he hopes you just go to sleep

Answer 8

Men are NEVER to tired for s*x.

He is probably cheating on you.

Answer 9

your best bet would to have him go to the doctor and try some kind of male enhancement. Not talking about one of those "bigger" pills. They have other things for getting the man in the "mood".  I don't know any guy that is too tired for s*x. That just isn't right. I know it happens, but that blows my mind.  Other than that just keep wearing skimpy little lingerie and doing provocative things around him. He's bound to snap and s*x you up. Good Luck!

Answer 10

See how much you talk?  Youd wear me down too.

Answer 11

Sounds like he must be working some hot chick on his way home from work.

Answer 12

Guys who can't muster the energy to have s*x with their wife are usually spending their sexual energy with somebody else.

Sorry.

Answer 13

Sit him down for a serious talk and explain everything to him.  Assure him that you are not accusing him of anything, but you just want to work things out.  If things don't get better after that, there is a wonderful invention called marriage counseling.

Answer 14

he has someone else on the side.  that's how my ex was.  too tired for me but plenty of energy for her. good luck

Answer 15

Get him on a vitamin plan, seriously. Hitting 30 brings about a few physical changes and maybe he IS just tired. You should also try going to bed earlier with him a couple nights a week. Reserve one night a week to catch up on sleep (I love doing this). Pick a boring night, Sunday is good around here, get the baby in bed and go to bed JUST to sleep. I know my husband requires more sleep than I do. I need about 6-7 hours a night while he usually needs about 9. Having a night for everyone to rest and catch up makes for a really nice week. You might also want to check for signs of depression. He could be suffering and not even know it. Has he had any other major life changes recently? (Besides the baby which IS a major life change and takes longer for men to adjust to) You should also try asking him what he expects out of your s*x life. It could be that you have a higher drive and require more s*x at the moment. I know from experience that in a marriage, both partners s*x drives go up and down. When you can sync up it's amazing but it's not always like that. We've lived the spectrum and it wasn't until we we're in our mid 30's that we seemed to want s*x at exactly the same frequency. See if you can get him to open up a little and see if anything else is going on. If he's really just tired, don't take it personally, just help him get more rest. Good luck :)