Oh, I'm so much better at giving advice to others than to myself! So let me just ask you guys... I'll need to explain a bit. Please, bare with me, I'm not one to really air out my dirty laudry, but I might need someone to kinda point me in the right direction.
My husband is definetly the non-cheating type. He is fully willing to admit that he cheated on alot of his other girlfriends when he was young. But after 18 he realized all that he had messed up with it. He did'nt cheat on his first wife. He holds firm to the whole promise to God you make when you marry. Please, nobody use that phrase "once a cheater always a cheater". I know from personal experience that's not true. So basically, I am noting to you that I may just be having trust issues that I need to work on, and my suspicion may just be paranoia.
We've been married for about a year now. When we very first got serious, there were a couple issues, but he stayed loyal and we worked them out. Then about three months ago he started getting really paranoid with me(which is nuts. considering how faithful I am. Everyone knows this.). See, he got in a bad car wreck when he was a teeager that left him with PTS and he can't drive. So I run all the errands. He started making alot of comment and insinuations and eventually flat out started accusing me and giving me the 21 questions. Considering he knows how ludicrous this is (admittedly) I started to wonder about the whole "guilty conscience" thing. Then we sat down and worked that out. It pretty much all subsided. Then the most recent thing involves a tennant at our apartment complex. Her and her roomated got in a fight out in the open, he pushed her little boy, and was getting unruly. My husband intervened and the man refused to leave or go back to his unit. It eventually got to the point that he was making threats to other residence, my husband, me and even our daughter. So my husband did what any man would do and it got physical as he escorted him off the property. Well then, this girl Anna, for the remainer of the time was making the whole thing seem like my husband was her hero, he protected and saved her, ect. Please note that before this, she had told my husband she wanted to have a drink with him at his house(with other insinuations), which he told me about, to which he stated, "I don't think my wife would appreciate that.". Back to story. So all the sudden I start to notice that when my husband goes outside to take care of little stuff it takes him a while. When I go to look, he's talking with some tenants and her. His opinion of her completely changes... "oh, you should be friends with her. she's really cool, ect.". One night, she left her son and his friend home alone while she went on a date with some guy and my husband asked the kid about it and the guy like four times in a half hour period of time. Then she finally goes to move out, and she's moving into her ex's house. She came to knock on our door and my husband stood there talking for a while, and it seemed like they were having a rather serious conversation. My husband was standing at the door and kind of holding it closed the rest of the way. So I get up to see what was going on. I go out there and she's looking kind of nervous, my husband doesn't seem too happy. I get her number, cause she is cool and let's face it, I could just be making stuff up in my mind. But I don't want to be stupid either. Could someone please tell me what they think about this?
Tags: