Husband not helping?

Question

My husband works 40 hours a week, I have a 7 year old that yes is in 2nd grade, and a 4 year old at home, and a 3 week old. I love my kid's and husband more then anything but it seems like my husband's schedule is so messed up. During the weekdays he tends to stay up late and falls asleep on the couch, and by the time the weekend comes he wants to go to bed early. Which cancels our cuddle time it really hurts me. I get less sleep then he does and I'm tired to but I have to stay up to get stuff done since he isn't helping. How can i take care of this :(

Answer 1

You need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. He probably doesn't even realize what he's doing.  

Answer 2

Hang in there.  Your baby is only three weeks old.  While we women just want to be cuddled and reassured that we are still loved, when men cuddle they usually wants s*x.  Your husband is probably trying to be considerate of the 6 week time frame and allowing your body to feel like whatever the two of you might want.

Answer 3

Communication. Something has got to change or you both will end up resenting one another. He probably feels since you are a stay at home Mom and he works outside the home that when he comes home it should be his time. What he doesn't think about is that you need some time too. Time for the two of you to be together, time for you to be alone, time for him to take the kids.

All you can do is let him know how this is bothering you and work on some ways to solve it. A marriage is 50-50 so if one partner is not working on it you can't expect it to work.

Good luck. Sometimes men just have to be told what to do. That is what my hubby says. He doesn't know how I am feeling about the house stuff, but if I just give him a honey do list then he said he would be more than glad to do it.  

Answer 4

Nothing like being married and not being with  the person you are suppose to love. If you are doing it alone with him there just think how much nicer it would be without him there. Sounds like he is avoiding you. Sorry... but me and my  guy always have cuddle time after we get home from work even when we go to bed early. We are always touching. You are lacking something very important.