Husband shows off our baby to his ex, is this normal?

Question

We have a 4 1/2 month old daughter and every time he goes to pick up his other daughter he insists that he take our daughter in so his ex can hold her. I don't really get along with his ex and feel this is a little awkward. Am I just over thinking this?

Answer 1

No I would be mad.. I understand that it is their child(ren)s half siblings but that doesnt mean it has anything to do with her! Dont let him take her if you are uncomfortable. You are not over reacting at all or over thinking. This is your child too. Or tell him your going to take your baby over to your exes house for a visit so he can hold her!

Answer 2

you should go in to its your child also but i do think he is just being nice

Answer 3

You should go with him when he has to pic up his kid from his ex's house. Every time. Even if you do not like her. See what his reaction is going to be.

Answer 4

I don't think that its a big deal myself.....so he is showing off the baby? so what?  I wouldn't worry....

Answer 5

I have a good friend that married a guy with a kid. She didn't like the ex but tried to maintain a friendly relationship with her b/c of her stepdaughter. That even included letting her husband take their daughter in to visit with the ex. Now that her own daughter is 6 they all get along really well....because she tried to make it as friendly as possible. They're all like family. Both kids visit back and forth...b/c they are sisters afterall.

I would really suggest that you try the same thing. I know it was horribly awkward for my friend at first. But the fact that she put so much effort into being nice showed her husband that she really loves, trusts and respects him, showed her stepdaughter that she was loved and a part of the new family her dad had started, and has made both women involved allies in raising the kids. Honestly I think it would be great if all blended families could handle things so well.

But I know that things like that are easier said than done so good luck!

Answer 6

Did she want a child with him? If so maybe he's doing it to make her jealous. OR he could just be doing what every other proud parent does, showing his child off to everyone and anyone who will take notice :)  

Answer 7

are you sure hes not taking bubz over there to rub his ex wifes face in the fact that hes moved and has had another child?

I personally wouldnt like it tho.  

Answer 8

No its not normal at all. I would have a serious talk with him about that. First of all if any ex had even so much as layed a finger on my child i would tear a strip off them! second him standing teher and chatting with her for so long is very odd... i wouldnt put up with ANY of this!

Answer 9

Call me superstitious, but I'd be afraid of her looking at the baby every time. There's no reason why he should even consider what she wants to do when he's married to you - his only relationship with her is as co-parent of their child.

Your child with him is none of her business. If she showed you respect, then you wouldn't care if she saw your baby girl. But your husband is out of line insisting on taking the baby every time for his ex-wife to hold it. If she saw it once by coincidence and smiled at her, you could digest that, but to hold her every time and you not being around - I'd put my foot down.

Answer 10

No that is very wrong if hes not going to be in a relashinship with that girl any more then he shouldnt show her your baby. But maby hes just doing this to get his ex jelouse so she will maby get together with her again or to get her to leave you alone.

Answer 11

Sounds like he's still not over her yet because if he was he could care less about her and wouldn't even bother to see her! He might be trying to get her jelous because he wants her back and still cares for her!  Also maybe he wishes he had the baby with her,  thats why he wants her to hold your baby.  I don't understand why your not saying anything to him about this, or questioning him!