Husband wants a baby, I want to wait...how to avoid hurt feelings?

Question

My husband and I just came back from a romantic vacation...we surely needed it and haven't been away together alone in awhile. We have a 5 year old starting kindergarten in a few weeks and I'm starting back to work as a teacher (took the summer off as I usually work summer session with my students). In my eyes, we are just starting on a great path financially and I'd like to take our son to Disney in April before we start to try to have another child. I also am "stationed" at a school district over an hour from home...and the drive can be treacherous in the winter. My goal is to eventually bring my job closer to home for safety and financial reasons (gas prices still stink!).

My husband...on the other hand...is very passionate about having a second child. He'd like us to just throw caution to the wind and start trying. He's more up in the clouds over the idea and I'm more realistic. Problem is, it's very hurtful for both of us because we're not seeing eye to eye.

I'd like to just get done what we need to before we bring another baby home, but my husband sees it differently.

Now I'm starting to think maybe I'm being too rigid....but am I really? Of course I think I'm right...but my husband thinks he's right....so what to do here??

Thanks! :)

Answer 1

Hey! As I said before try to get as much of your goals done as soon as possible if you know you would like to try soon (as in the next year or so)

But I am a firm believer that you can never be really ready for a baby whether its the first, second, whatever. Personally, I would go for it, (I would love to have a 2ww partner LOL) but you gotta make sure your ready, yourself.

((((Hugs!!!))))

= )

Answer 2

I am a pro & con list person (lol).  You could always sit down with him and try doing that.  That way, he could see exactly why you want to wait.

A romantic vacation?  YAY!!!  I hope you had a great time!!  : )