Husband wants to adopt my kids?

Question

ok so my husband who has been my girls dad since they were3 and 2 wants to start the adoption proccess. I am alittle worried about the home study. What do they look for? Where can I get one for 500 or under in ohio?We don't make alot of money( we get help from my mother i law) is that going to ding us? What can they do if it does?

Answer 1

then do it

Answer 2

Its lovely that your hubby wants to adopt the children, but how long have yous been together now? has he wanted to adopt them all along or is it just now that he has this desire?

I wonder why he isnt satisfied with just going along the way things are if there has been no probs.

Why now does he want to do it?

I wouldnt jump into this one if i were you. Although you have all the facts i guess. I would look very closely at it b4 making rash decisions.

Good Luck

Shelly

Answer 3

If finances are an issue then you should probably be seeking support for your children rather than letting the biological father completely off of the hook.

Why pin the cost on your new husband and burden your new marriage with the full brunt of the expenses raising two kids will bring.

There is no reason why you can't force the biological father to do his share of the supporting and the work.  



In this day and age there is no reason why your husband should need to adopt your children.  It would be best for the children to keep the connection to their biological birth father viable and open.

Better to spend the money on an attorney to establish proper paternity and to enforce child support, visitation, care and other custodial issues.

This way the burden of support and care for the kids falls equally - where it should.  On the biological father.

Sometimes parents (Dad's) need help in doing the right thing.  The kids and the biological father will be glad you forced the issue.

Even if you can't collect right now you will be able to some day down the road.  There is no statute of limitation on child and other court ordered support.   And the amount owed accrues 10% interest per year in most states.  

I have a friend who just collected $90,000.00 in back child support - owed from over 20 years ago!    

That kind of money could come in handy 15 or 20 years from now when you might need the extra money to pay for your daughter’s education or wedding or both.

No reason why your husband can't take care of your girls and love them just the same -- without adopting them.  Why let the biological father off of the financial hook?

The more people to love a child the better.  Besides, most kids seek out their biological birth parents once they are grown anyway.  

Fathers are forever.  Nothing you force on your kids now will change that.   And what you do now may not be so appreciated by you children down the line.

You can always change the child’s name to your husband’s name – without an adoption.