Husband wants to go to Vegas with his buddies. should i be upset?

Question

My husband wants to go to las vegas with his buddies for his brother's 21st birthday. Normally this wouldn't bother me, but we are having a child and he is wanting to go out and party with these young guys. Do I have a right to be upset??

Answer 1

If you trust your husband, then you have no right to be upset about this. The baby isn't even here yet, and you're already wanting to tie him down to responsibilities that don't exist. If you're upset that you have biological responsibilities and he doesn't, then you're free to take that up with your Creator, but let him blow off some steam.

It doesn't sound like you'd be upset about the trip if you weren't pregnant, I'd chalk it up to hormones.

Answer 2

You know I'm with you on this one! For some reason I just really need my husband now that I am pregnant. And, maybe I'm unfair but I don't think it is fair that men can go out and go live it up, drink and whatnot while for women we cannot do as much. However, sometimes I think about that and I feel like I am being unfair. I don't think it is unreasonable to not want him to leave for Vegas - I think it would be if he just wanted to go out with the guys for a drink at the local bar.

I know for at least me at this point I need my husband - he's a lifesaver since I've had to go to the hospital and extra doctor's appointments. I totally understand how you feel. Have you spoken to him about your feelings?

Answer 3

Personally I would be pissed off (at first), all those Hormones are going to make you angry wether you want to or not. BUT I would just let it go, dont get stressed out about it, just let him know that when the baby comes there will be no more running out and partying. LOL  He can stay home and you can go out!

Answer 4

I mean realistically i think there is a good chance something might happen while he is there but it all depends on your reaction. I would let him go but you also have to discretly remind him that he needs to be responsible and you guys are having a child, etc. etc.

Answer 5

Unless you are  due in the  next couple of weeks I say let him go. I am 7 1/2 months pregnant and am encouraging my husband to spend as much time doing the things he enjoys now before our son is born  (due mid-October) . He is a very keen snowboarder  and  we are having a  very good season this year here in Australia (and I just can't stand that puppy dog look he gets on his face when the snow  report comes on the news every night). Once that baby arrives it's going to be all hands on deck for both of us and he has been  wonderfully supportive  coming to every Dr's appointment with me, birthing classes, getting the baby's room ready and putting up with my mood swings. Give him a little freedom now. It'll give him something to  reminisce about  when he's walking the floor with bub in the months to come!

Answer 6

I wouldn't frame it as right or wrong.  I would say it's pretty normal to be upset though.  A lot of things that I wouldn't have otherwise minded make me upset.  My husband and I went to Vegas when I was six months for our 5th anniversary and his 30th birthday.  Then Mendocino to visit a friend.  He wanted to take another weekend for a "guys weekend" with this same friend in that same month and I basically flipped at the idea.  I don't want him going on some random weekend with his bachelor friend to God knows where when I am knocked up and exhausted from a couple of weekends of travel on top of my regular work and pregnancy issues.  Now, was it right for me to flip out?  Probably not.  I probably could have been more understanding of his need to do something just for him.  However, I think it was a normal reaction for a prengnant woman who is putting all her focus into preparing for the new baby.  I felt bad, but on the other hand, it was important he understand that he needed to take some time to focus on me, especially since all these trips were for HIM.

Answer 7

Has he ever cheated? Do you trust him? I would say if he is responsible then i would not worry, but if you have any negative feelings then yes!  

Answer 8

Depends on if you trust him or not. He may just want to get all the partying out of his system because pretty soon he's gonna be a Dad!  

Answer 9

You're upset because you're pregnant. Things that normally wouldn't bother you will. I wouldn't say you have a "right" to be angry but you can't help but feeling that way. Have you discussed it with him?

Answer 10

I would probably be upset.  I am generally really good about not giving my husband a hard time and letting him go out with the guys, but a trip to vegas is a little extreme in my opinion.  My concern would be more about money and spending it carelessly so close to the due date.  Also it would be nice for him to do something nice for your anniversary.  I mean especially since you are pregnant.  

Maybe you can go with him to vegas, and then the one night he can hang with the guys, and then the other nights, are a romantic trip for you, including a live show and a romantic dinner.

Answer 11

if you trust him let him go.. its one weekend of going out and partying.. its not that big of a deal..  

Answer 12

baby's not here yet so he's got every right to want to party up before it gets there.  if you have no reason not to trust him... then let it go.