Husbands actions i don't get it?

Question

my husband and i have been split 4.. 2 months. we both want a divorce. but not so sure anymore on his part. w/e i say he says the complete opposite. he wanted a divorce but said he couldnt afford to pay half. then when i tell him my finances are not the way i thought it would b with loans taken out for school n such all of a sudeen he has the money to go half. he wants me to call the lawyer and get the divorce going then contact him 4 payment n signature. i told him im too busy. im a single parent full time student with 7 classes my final semester and rotc. i cant do it rite now. now hes gettin on me about not being able to do everything while he sits on his a$$. i told him to do it. and pay 4 it since he doesnt support his child nyways..n ill sign it. now hes mad about that. i feel if he really wanted to do it he would have seen a lawyer and started the paper work. he claims he cant since the lawyers r more expensive in ft worth. and since i live in el paso there cheaper thats y i should do it. sounds stupid i kno..makes no since..i agree..y is he doing this.

Answer 1

Let him divorce you.   Let him pay for it.

However, you should contact a lawyer and find out what your rights are once he does it.  Do not sign anything until you have a lawyer look the paperwork over.  

You may be signing off on somethings you and your children are entitled to.  

Let him be mad !   You have enough on your plate.  Don't try to guess why he is doing it.  Only he knows.  

Where I am from if the husband divorces the wife she gets more.  Could it be that?  

Answer 2

My guess is that you did everything for him when you were together. He thinks you still should.

Answer 3

You are both making excuses. Each of you needs their own lawyer, so you should both do it.

I understand you are both busy, but it doesn't take long for a consult with a lawyer.  

Answer 4

He's doing it because it sounds like he doesn't want a divorce. he's going to give you the run around so you won't do it either.  He probably wants to get back with you.

You sound like your life is busy, school, kids, Army, and he knows that it's taking a tole on you.  Best thing I can tell you for now is to consult JAG.

Answer 5

You are both making excuses. If you want a divorce, get a divorce. It's like school and kids and all the rest-- if it's important enough, you'll finds the way to make it happen.

Certainly the same is true of him, but you don't have any control over what he does. You do have control over what you do.

So if you want a divorce badly enough, get it done. If you don't want it badly enough to get it done, then quit complaining about it.

Answer 6

If you both can agree on everything then go with an uncontested divorce. You can have a perfessional prepare it and then take it to the courts and then you have to take a parenting class and thats it. I did it that way, it cost me $150 for someone to prepare it and $150 in court cost and $60 for parenting class.

Answer 7

You just sit tight and finish school and tell that jerk that if he wants it so bad he can pay for it and if he calls to harass you don't answer the phone and nail him for child support that will keep him busy he needs get off his lazy *** and take care of  it

Answer 8

i think he does want the divorce , but he's just being a c**t about it because you two are separated. F**k him, finish your schooling and take care of your son and yourself and deal with that s**t on your time unless he decides to grow up and do it himself. If you want something done and done right you have to do it yourself, that's what i'd tell him!! good luck!