Husbands weird reaction to OPK

Question

Today I decided to go out and buy an ovulation kit, because my cycle varies in length from month to month. My husband and I started trying last month and this will be our second month trying, he is well aware of the fact that we are "trying" and he is really wanting a little one. Today he came home from work and he saw my ovulation kit..and said "i've never seen any other woman do that stuff" It was like he was weirded out by it or something or mad that I was using something to help us get pregnant. It made me feel incredibly uncomfortable and upset..I'm really ready for a baby and I know he is too, I just don't understand why he wouldn't want to use something like an OPK if it gave us a better chance of getting pregnant. Do any of your husbands get mad because you go to extreme lengths to get pregnant..I don't think taking an OPK test is an extreme length but thats how he is making it seem. Any advice would be helpful thanks

Answer 1

I think he may see it as taking the 'magic' out of the sexual experience. Often, guys want it to be a seual experience and getting pregnant is a bonus....while we see it as the entire objective. Really, ttc is about as 'unmagical' as it can get....just try to keep the ttc devices out of sight...so he can still pretend in his mind that you are that hot young school vixen who just wants to bang him....or whatever his fantasy of you is. This is similar to why my husband freaks over seeing my tampons, or seeing me use one....it just associates my 'thingy' with something other than his desired use.

Answer 2

It's not that he is mad, it's more of a punch in the gut for our hubby's when we use these things, because to them it's an insult to their macho ego, because in their eyes they should of gotten us pregnant the very first time, and when it doesn't happen, their whole macho ego is at risk because their "lil guys" (sperm) didn't reach the mark, so we resort to using outside influences like OPK's and all that to better time it, men just don't understand about timing of womens cycles, ovulation and conceiving, in their eyes if we have s*x that's it we should get pregnant. In future just try not to do the OPK's etc in front of hubby. lol so much better for them if it's not in their head.