I'd like to adopt a Chinese girl. Tell me your experience and answer some of my questions please?

Question

My partner and I are g*y males, I speak Chinese very little, still have some time to go before fluency.

I am a Med student, and my partner's job has enough free time to take care of a child.

Do you think the adoption in China will change if I wait longer?

How much money should I be considering to put into this, and time?

Does it help that I speak Chinese? Does it hurt the case that I am g*y?

Answer 1

we're in the china program and they only allow a married man and woman.

you may want to consider domestic.  

Answer 2

You wont be able to adopt in China if you are g*y. I hate to say it, but they have VERY strict policies from adopting from China. My husband and I wanted to adopt from china and they require that you make at least $60,000 a year, are in a married heterosexual relationship for at least 7 years and that you are over 30 years old.

If you were able to find any agency in China that would allow you to adopt, they are the most expensive place to adopt from. Normal fees are $20,000 + airfare twice for 6 weeks stay + whatever the government decides to charge you. I knew a family who went $10,000 over their worst case scenario budget for adopting in china (and their worst case scenario budget was $20,000 extra). So I would suggest adopting locally or from another country.  

Answer 3

As far as I'm aware of, China does not permit homosexuals to adopt.

But in case you ever DO adopt, here's a link you might find helpful so you are really aware of what you're in for - not just during the adoption process, but the aftermath and the REST of the child's life:

http://sisterheping.wordpress.com/

Answer 4

I remember in a local newspaper here used to have personal classifieds, this was pre-internet, of course.

The g*y ones were the most entertaining.  I used to see "NO FATS OR FEMMES" all the time.

China sorta feels the same way.

Answer 5

I'm sorry but you cant adopt from China now, maybe single in the past but event thats over. Its been done, just read the White Swan Express.

Anyways, you know what you could look into though?

As a doctor you can go over on trips and work on a volunteer medical team.

I hope you will pursue your family though, through other options :D

Answer 6

Singles can no longer adopt from China.  This would have been the only way you would have been able to adopt from there if you are g*y.  

Now, lets say you do decide to get married to a womanl just to adopt (please don't BTW).

You would have to be married for two years if this was a first marriage, if either of you had been married before, you would have to be married for five years.

You both would have to be over the age of 30, I think under age 55.  

Neither of you could be obese.  Neither of you could take any anti-depressive pills etc.

You would need to make at least 30,000 a year (more if there are other children involved, 10,000 per person in the family including the child to be adopted).   You would need a net worth of over 80,000.

It costs around 25,000 to adopt from China, including travel for two people.

Right now, the process for China is getting longer and longer, I think the wait times will increase to almost five years after LID in China.  So you could be looking at six years before you could adopt.  Six years in addition to the two to five years you would need to be married before applying.

Good luck.  Sorry to burst your bubble, but it doesn't sound like this avenue is the way for you to go.  Look into adopting from Foster Care, I know some states are not g*y-friendly for adoption, but some states are.  Especially if you are willing to adopt a child that is not "desirable" to all the other people who want to adopt who are not g*y.  

Answer 7

According to your other answers, you're not 18 yet, so I'm going to call you a troll on this one.

Answer 8

As people have said, you won't be allowed to adopt from China, unfortunately. And while it's always possible China will change the rules, I don't think it's likely enough to base your family planning decisions on it.

Why is China of particular interest? I assume you have some connection to the culture, given you've been learning Chinese.

Even given that, there are a lot of children in North America in need of homes. I think you should consider looking into adopting a foster child, particularly if you are open to children of a different race than yourselves, since minority children are often overrepresented in foster care in comparison to the percentage of the population they make up.

You don't need to have a child from China to continue to pursue your interest in Chinese culture and language. And I think any child would benefit from the experience of travel abroad; any child would learn a lot from a trip to China, even if it wasn't their birth country. That can still be something you can do with your family.

I'm sure not being able to adopt from China is disappointing, but I think you should consider children in need of homes in your own area as well.

Answer 9

You will be unable to adopt from China, as their requirements do not allow single parents or g*y couples to adopt.

To answer your other questions, the process is currently costing about $30,000 and taking about three years.

No, your Chinese language skills would have no bearing on the adoption and yes, your being g*y hurts it greatly because it is strictly against the rules.

EDITED TO ADD:  Atleast one of the adoptive parents has to make ONE trip to China to pick up the child, and the duration of this trip is about two weeks-not six weeks, and there is no requirement for two trips.  Some other countries have requirements like that, but it is not China.

Answer 10

Homosexuals can not adopt from China.

The fees for adoption are 18-20K unless you go Special needs and its less a bit and the wait is shorter.

And I doubt China will change on the matter.

Answer 11

It depends on how much money you have to pay others to look the other way. You may not get a baby but its always a possibility no matter what the agency feed people. Money talks in adoption. Its purely a business in some countries.  

I would rather be raised by educated open minded g*y couples than average educated narrow minded heterosexual christian nuts.

Look into foster care if you really want to help a child in need. There are plenty of kids that have been through the ringer with narrow minded couples and need open minded supportive people in their lives.