I'd rather adopt..?

Question

then have my own child.. I know that sounds kinda weird and selfish, but i really do. Im only 16 and i plan on going to college and soon after starting my career, adopting a child. ever since i was young i would talk about adopting. Always saying to people how 'i want a little girl, id love her and cherish her and be the best parent ever..' So have any of you ever felt this way? Or am I just an odd person..

Answer 1

a child as u know is a very big responsibility .what about a boyfriend,u will not be free the little girl will be waiting for u,and also maybe that your boy friend will not accept this.

but wherever it is a wonderful and  good idea,to make happy a soul!!! take care!

Answer 2

I have wanted to adopt too. YOu are not the only one, believe me, I want to get someone a home.

Answer 3

I've always felt like this also, from a very young age.  As soon as I was old enough to think (seriously) about having children one day, I knew I wanted to adopt or something similar.

Contrary to what MANY people will tell you, it's not weird, selfish, or unnatural to feel this way.  I also understand that a lot of people will make assumptions about you not wanting to experience childbirth, gain pregnancy weight, etc etc.  This may be true in your case, but I know more often than not it's not the case, and in my experience those types of comments are usually made by people who vastly underestimate what parenting is really about.  I've always  found that a lot of people pressure you to explain why you want to do this, and ask you to justify your decision to them.  My advice to you is DON'T!  It's is nobody elses business, do you ask people why they want to fall pregnant?  Remember you know your own mind, you know what you want to do with your life, and you will be the parent of your children, not other people!

When you get older, you may or may not change your mind, but I would say don't let other people change it for you.

I'm now 24, and about to become a foster parent.  This is my choice for having children, I may adopt as well some day, but most likely not.  I'm happy, I'm excited, and I sure as h**l don't feel weird and selfish!

Good luck with whatever you decide when you're older, and I'm sure you'll make a wonderful parent someday.

Answer 4

i loved being pregnant and always wanted to be i was the only kid i knew who would stuff there belly lol. my sister is like you she wants to adopt a child the idea of not ever having to be pregnant is great to her and she wants a like 2 year old. it is all how you feel about it. your not odd you just know what you want and how to get it lol. and for my sister it really isn't a vanity thing she is just really freaked out by the whole proses and has a low pain tolerance and doesn't think she could handle the birth and i agree lol (i know she would step up and do what she needed to do if she had to) you should see the fuss she will make over a paper cut ......for days lol. I'm 24 and have a 2 year old and she is 22 and has no children yet.

Answer 5

I dont think that is weird at all.  I think it is commendable.  I was adopted.  There are so many kids out in the world who need good homes, it is good to hear that some people still want to provide this too them.  You could also be a foster parent too.  This is usually temporary parenting for those children that are newer in the system.  I went to 3 foste homes before I was adopted at the age of 6.  1 home I liked, and the other 2 not so much.  The system really needs good foster homes for children who have already been though way too much!  So make your plans girl!  Adn as someone who has ben adopted I say thank you!

Answer 6

I have wanted to adopt internationally for a long time. but one day i realized that at the core all i really wanted was to take care of SOMETHING. so i adopted a dog from my local animal shelter. i gotta tell you i am so glad i didn't adopt a child. you have to be really ready because the last thing you want to do is give it back. but if you are really sure about it i would say get a pet first. a dog preferably as they are very much like chilren. if you can take excellent care of a dog, enforce dicipline and maintain a healthy bond with your pet then you will definitely make a good mom. good luck.

Answer 7

When I was younger, yes, I felt this way.  I felt that their were too many people on the planet already.  And of course a lot of these people are kids without a home or parents of their own.  When I got older and got married, though, I really wanted to have the experience of being pregnant and having children.  Now I have a son and my husband and I are currently trying to get pregnant again.  After I have my next child my husband and I are still going to adopt, probably two kids.  

The moral of the story is you are neither selfish nor weird, but remember, adopting doesn't mean you can't have kids the natural way as well.

Answer 8

Most of the time a single young woman will not be able to adopt.  You will have to be older and be established in a job that has a lot of money and lets  you spend a lot of time at home (or married and a stay at home mom.) You will probably heve to  adopt an older special needs, racial minority, foreign, or other  hard to place child and you cannot always pick the s*x.  You may be able to be a foster care person.

Answer 9

I agree those are my exact plans as well :/

I don't plan on having a kid, I want to adopt

so no your not an odd person heh!

why do you think they have adoption centers :]

Answer 10

you are only 16, you might change your mind, a lot of time this feeling is because of fear of giving birth

Answer 11

i felt the exact same way as a child.  Said i would growup and adopt lots of children.  Helped me prepare myself for the idea of maybe not having my own (which i didn't know when i was younger).  I think it is wonderful when people decide to adopt with so many children looking for a good home.  I still would love to adopt someday even though i have 2 boys biologically.

Answer 12

All I ever wanted from the time I was little was to get a big piece of property, a few horses and adopt all the "unadoptable" children I could.  The ones nobody wanted because of medical problems, etc.

Unfortunately my 1st husband didn't agree - I had 1 biological son.  I could never afford to adopt while single for the next 23 years even though I had a good career - putting one through University was expensive enough.

My second husband (just married a few months ago) worked with these children for a living and is now retired.  We can't adopt now but I know had I met him 25 years ago we would have (he's adopted).  But I know I also would have had another biological child.  When you fall in love with the right man, there's just something about having his baby.  I felt great, actually never better, during my pregnancy.  So I know I'd have another one of my own and then adopt.

If you would rather adopt then go ahead - it's a great thing.  So many children need good homes.  And you can always add to your family should you ever marry - adding either/or way!

Good luck with your dreams.  I hope they turn out better than mine did (I was too late).

Answer 13

I was adopted when I was four and I always said that I want to adopt as well. I was given a life better than I could of ever imagined so I in return would love to do that for someone else.

Answer 14

you have time to change your mind many times.

Answer 15

hello, Ive adopted two children and plan on adopting more. its a lot of money but its well worth it. i am also a foster parent and i love that as well. My husband and i can have children but we wanted to adopt because we both have seen kids with no families. he was one of them his mom gave him up when he was 2 months and he was in foster care for years and never really adopted he grew up moving every year or so. I on the other hand grew up with loving parents who had 6 kids.  i think adopting is great.