I'd rather have my daughter play by herself than with....?

Question

her cousins that we live with they are 4 and 6 years of age a girl and a boy, when they play they dont share with my daughter. my daughter is at the stage (she will be 2 in a week)where i am teaching her to share with other kids but when she plays with them they dont want to share with her but yet they will want to play with my daughters toys, they say things like "my mom said no cause she will loose it" so i tell them to put it away or to play somewhere else . i dont want my daughter to get their bad habits. am i being too mean?

Answer 1

i don't think you are being mean at all. i keep my sons communication with my sisters son limited because he in my opinion is a bad kid. he does not listen, is always misbehaving and throws huge fits if he does not get his way. he expects Brody (my son) to share all of his toys, but Travis ( my nephew) does not want to share his toys with Brody.

i don't want to hurt my sisters feelings and i don't believe in telling someone else how to raise their child, so instead, Brody only sees Travis on Sunday's, during and after church.

you can not let someone else dictate how you chose to raise your child, and you shouldn't feel guilty for wanting your child to be respectful and grateful. you shouldn't have to except that her cousins don't want to share....

my son loves to play by himself....and I play with him all the time!

BTW...Travis is 4 and Brody will be two next month...

Answer 2

Your daughter needs to learn how to play with other children. If you are there to supervise, then it should be fine. If not, then no way.

Answer 3

Its just something you are going to have to decide how to deal with. You have to realize that you cannot control other people's children. Just explain to you child that the way they play is not how you want her behaving.

Answer 4

No your just a concerned parent. I would do the same thing. Eventually your daughter will have her own friends. As long a she learns from the experience. Wait a sec it sounds like she should be in nursery with babies her own age.

Answer 5

In my opinion I don't think your being mean. It's completely understandable that you don't want your daughter to acquire her cousins bad habits. However, you have to keep in mind that their still little children and sometimes children act like that out of jealousy or bad parenting.

Answer 6

Absolutely Not!!!  you are the only one in control of what your daughter learns at her age, what she learns up to the age of 5, is what she will take with her in school. The other children are just going to have to learn to share....You can do it!!!