I'm 13 and my self-esteem is constantly changing, help me please!!?

Question

Okay, well last year and during junior school i thought i was really ugly with my freckles and i would never get a boyfriend. but this year i've started high school and i wear foundation, bronzer and makeup to help me look nicer. i've changed so much from primary school, like im a whole new person and loving it :) i think i am pretty SOMETIMES, why not all the time? I look in the mirror when i have no makeup on and my self-esteem bar just drops and i see this fugly girl staring back at me. then somedays before school when i have a light amount of makeup on i think i look quite nice and i feel confident around boys. but somedays, i think i look super ugly. is it because i am not getting enough sleep, or my nutrients are low or something which makes my eyes look droopy? a few days ago i used to feel pretty all the time, now i just feel ugly since i got my haircut yesterday. it looks nice, but i cant tie it up the way i always did like half-up, half-down with a ribbon. how can i make myself feel pretty? most of my friends have had boyfriends, well, all of my friends except me :( what else do i have to do to prove i am pretty?????????

Answer 1

you are not overweight and you don't need to cake a bunch of c**p on your face to be beautiful. light stuff is really pretty because it looks natural and that shows that you can look your best without going through the whole thing.you just think you look ugly because you are not wearing makeup for once. also being pretty starts with loving yourself for who you are. it sounds stupid and conceited but it worked for me a few years ago:

say: I am perfect and beautiful.

after awhile you might start changing your whole perspective on yourself.

being someone you're not turns people off and even though you think it makes you pretty, a few days later you don't feel so pretty after all. that sounds kinda like your story. be beautiful is letting your true beauty shine through and letting people know the real you so that they can love you for you.

boys aren't really that  great. it may seem like they are but until you find the right guy you will never be happy. and just because a guy is cute on the outside doesn't mean that he is a nice person. you never know who you will find either.

good luck and when in doubt, call on God for help. good luck!!!

Answer 2

You really shouldn't worry what other people think of you. And who cares if all your friends have bf's, its not important. If wearing make-up makes you feel beautiful, then do what ever it takes to make yourself feel good .  

Answer 3

Sounds like it's just a self image problem.  I think freckles are cute.  <3

I know a girl who is pencil thin, who always is complaining that she needs to lose weight.  She has a self image problem.  We tell her constantly that she's skinnier than any of us, but she doesn't listen.  

She looks in the mirror, and doesn't see what she really looks like... she sees herself as fat and disgusting, when in reality if she lost any more weight she'd look anorexic.

I don't know how to fix that, but maybe at least knowing it's all in your head will help to eventually deal with it.

Answer 4

well dont think u r dat bad,u r still growing 2 think u r ugly,jst do the lite make up and u wonld fell good wit urslf,and dnt think u r fat jst wacth wat u eat and drink.

Answer 5

chances are someone likes u and is 2 scared 2 tell u so cheer up  :} !    im sure u look fine.

Answer 6

Lots of people are like that.

Try to look it as a challenge and try to relax.

Answer 7

chill out girlie.. just be yourself and ur time will come :] trust me  

Answer 8

Forget makeup, it makes your skin horrible! Try mineral makeup if you want to wear foundation. Sometimes you think your pretty and sometimes you think your ugly, it's a teenager thing. Be proud of what you have.

If a guy only goes for looks than he's a loser. There's more to a person than looks. Enjoy your youth, it won't last for long. The right guy will find you eventually don't stress, if your desperate try a new look. Try to be a bit more out there. I know that sounds weird but when I was 13 I thought that everybody who was 'out-there' was weird, now your weird if your not out there.

45 kg? Your underweight, you'll need to gain more as you grow otherwise you'll look to thin. The reason teachers tell students off about make up is because of a school's reputation. My school is the same, they basically want us to all look the same, and have no individuality. The more neat they can make you all look the better the school looks.

Forget the cool popular guys, guess what they're looking for in a relationship! Are you going to provide that? Dating a hot guy doesn't make you look cool, it makes you look S****y because most of the popular guys are only in relationships for one thing.

Answer 9

If your self esteem is based on how you look - it will change rapidly.  If your self esteem is based on how much God loves you and cares for you it will get stronger every day that you contemplate His goodness to you.  If you serve self rather than God your self esteem will be like a yo yo rather than a mountain that has no top.

Answer 10

Just tell yourself this phrase, the mirror always makes things uglier. That has been theoretically true. I did an experiment, i found an average person and ask him on a scale of 1 through 10 on how i look outside and 1 through 10 how i looked in the mirror. He said i looked 8 outside and 6 in the mirrors.