I'm 13 nearly 14, i desperately want a baby?

Question

but my boyfriend thinks I'm joking, how do i tell him that I'm serious and ask him to give me that baby..please don't jude me about this, it is a personal choice and i don't want to hear criticism just suggestions.

Answer 1

okay i understand you and i no this is hard for you sweetie you are not responsible enough honey.... THE PAIN!!!!! of childbirth is too much..... then you will end up poor and McDonald's and fat and die of an early age cancer/ stroke? diabetes maybe

But if you REALLY want a baby

not just s*x

be sure your bf is the ONE and then seriously talk to him about it but i guarantee you 98% he'll break with you and they'll all call you crazy  

Answer 2

k i know u said no critisism but one thing i do want to say is that a baby is a HUGE responsibility and u cant say ugh im sick of this who cares cause its a livin,breathin thing but if u r ready for the resposibility and ur parents r ok with it theres not much anyone here can say or do to talk u out of it

but dont pressure ur bf into anything eaither cause he has to want it as well

i guess u can try talkin to him and come to some kinda agreement but at 14 i really think that u should enjoy life and wait till ur older and can handle it a bit better

good luck :) <33

Answer 3

good luck little girl. you can;t even take care of yourself yet and you wanna have a baby? you're going to support it how? using the tax money of us responsible adults?

Answer 4

Um, well not trying to criticise but I think you should wait two or three years. The reason is because then it will be easier for you to have a child.Less death risk, pain. Also, then he will be more likely to say yes. For now I think just baby sit and save money for your future baby. Remember that no matter what other people say, you are your own person and we/they should respect you. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I am not going to tell you that you are too young or naive because, honestly, you could be incredibly mature. And since I don't know you I can't judge you.

I know how adorable babies are and how great it feels to know you are responsible for a life. It makes you feel more mature. But, sweetie, think about it some more before you come to a decision.

Your body may not be physically ready for a baby which could lead to complications in birth. Or you may not mentally be ready, even though you think you are.

Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you really, do want a baby. Hint at it every chance you get, always talk about how cute they are or how much fun and joy they bring... he will probably catch on. As for getting him to father your baby, I don't know what you should do because I do not know you or him.

Good Luck <3

Answer 6

you're just a kid, believe me, you can't handle it yet. just enjoy your childhood... if you get a baby now, you'll regret it when you grow up that you missed the time you should've just played around...

Answer 7

Look u may think u want a baby but happens when ur older like 15 and u want to go to the movies but cant.  How can u support the baby. finish school first then rethink this. instead of having a baby u can babysit and stuff like that. btw im 13 going on 14 so im not judging u im just talking to u as a fellow 13 year old girl.

Answer 8

i would suggest seriously thinking about this!

how will you support you and the baby your parents might kick you out!

i am 17 and having my baby in december and no i dont regret it at all

but i do wish that i was older!

you miss out on so much!

trust me! you are still so young and have so much left to do!

do you want to go to a dance at school with a fat belly!

ya well i have my sadies and girls league dance coming before im pregnant and its really hard to have a picture with you pregnant at such a young age!

where will you get money to pay for the baby????

you have to buy:

diapers

formula

clothing

wipes

pacifiers

bottles

and all sorts of stuff

plus not to mention look at all the things you will not be able to do:

hang out

go to the movies

sleep over at a friends

and your parents will hate your bf!

please think twice

Answer 9

You're way too young. Do you know how hard it is to take care of a baby and study at the same time? Your boyfriend thinks you are joking because he is not ready for a kid. Enjoy the perks of being a teenager!

Answer 10

My friend was like u and she regreted it all her life , she coudnt take care if the baby or deal with it, its hard, ur just imagining it in ur head that its not,and obviously ur too young and its just wrong and hes right to say no.

Answer 11

You may say you want a baby, but you are not very smart. Having a baby at your age can KILL YOU, sweetie- and I mean that quite literally. Pregnancy often kills girls your age, or it kills their babies. Young girls are 3 to 10 times as likely to suffer from serious complications during pregnancy and delivery than older adult women are, and some of these complications are DEADLY, such as placenta previa, for example. How eager are you to wind up in the morgue, pal? Ask yourself that, and then think about whether having a baby at 14 is a good idea. Aside from this, babies are EXPENSIVE to have and raise, and they require huge time commitments. You aren't even old enough to drive yet, or have a license, so how do you expect to support yourself and get a job?? Things like food, rent, utilities, clothes, insurance, diapers, formula, a carseat, baby furniture and clothes, a car, gas, and the like ALL COST MONEY, sweetie, and without a job or an education, there is NO WAY YOU CAN PAY FOR THESE THINGS. As for your boyfriend, I think he's just USING YOU for s*x- that's what most guys his age typically do, and if you get pregnant, he's going to dump you. That's probably why he treats you as if you are joking when you mention this to him- he thinks you ARE joking. He isn't ready to be a daddy yet- he clearly doesn't want the responsibility of having a child to pay for and raise, and you are WRONG to put such pressure on him. YOU wouldn't like it if HE forced YOU  into having s*x, would you?? Think about that one.

Being a mom at 14 is no picnic in the park, pal. Suppose your baby gets born with a serious birth defect, such as spina bifida ( and I doubt you even know what that means, most girls your age usually don't) or a developmental disability such as Autism or Asperger's, for example. Do you have ANY IDEA AT ALL what it costs to treat, help, and provide services and supports to people with conditions like this, so they can lead a reasonably normal life? Doctors and therapists who do this kind of work DON'T DO IT FOR FREE, sweetie, and you need to realize this. It's VERY COMMON for babies born to young teens your age to be born with such problems, and they require a LIFETIME of care and support to deal with. How do you expect to manage that, with only a 6th or 7th grade education, and no job??

Come on, pal- you need to THINK, and you need to do it with your BRAIN, NOT with what's between your legs. God gave you a brain for A REASON, and it wasn't put there to make you look cute for the guys. YOU NEED TO USE IT- and for something other than planning how to get pregnant and become a 7th grade dropout. Staying in school and concentrating on getting the best grades you can would be a smart move. So would making plans to go on to college and pursue a professional career. There will be plenty of time for you to get married and start a family once you are out of college and working, and have a good job with benefits which will allow you to raise a baby properly. Don't jump ship prematurely and totally wreck your life by s******g that up now- because you will really regret it later on, believe me.

Enough said.  

Answer 12

You will seriously regret that once you get older. Trust me. Just have fun and enjoy life first, okay? You have NO idea how much hard work it is to have a baby. Consult your parents about this, all right? Ask your mom or dad or anyone (a relative) you know and trust. Ask them what they think about this decision of yours.

Answer 13

I think I understand what you are saying. The best suggestion would be to try babysitting. If you like kids so much, the best thing to do would to be to learn to take care of them. hope this helped

Answer 14

you dont want a baby at 14 believe me thats what i thought until i had one... DONT DO IT its so hard i love my son so much but he`s a hand full. i told my boyfriend i wanted a baby and thats what he gave me i forgot to ask him to be there i guess cause he has only seen his son 3 times and he s almost 1. if you do decide to have a baby like i know you will i hope you have caring parents cause your gonna need them and i suggest you dont tell them you planned your pregnacy cause that will p**s them off.. i hope your smarter then me and just wait cause if ou boyfriend doesnt want a baby youll be raising it alone

Answer 15

Can you say hormones? Yes, I've had times like those, but not completely desperate. And you'll s***w up your life and the baby's because you won't be able to support yourself or the baby. And what about school? How are you going to handle a baby and school? Wait till you're older, and married.

Answer 16

i was like that at that age hun. please don't go sleeping around just to make a baby. you may think you can look after a baby and take care of it but honestly you cant. well you might be able to and you might be a very responsible young lady but please don't. wait until you are a bit older. you will see why soon.

Answer 17

you don't want a baby...you desperately want to be loved. Please talk to a school counselor or a teacher...someone who can mentor and advise you. a baby at 13 isn't the answer. it's not fair to you or to a baby.

please talk to a special counselor or teacher or parent.

you need to be loved....

Answer 18

Sorry for telling u this, but please rethink your decision. You're so young it's DANGEROUS. I bet u're not fully mature yet, and u think u're going to have a baby?!!? Think about your life. Wait until you have a job, a man u love so dearly, a house, and other necessities so you and ur child will have a wonderful life. You're still in school, I'm not even going to go there. Just be more PATIENT okay?

Answer 19

Of course I'm going to say NOOOOOOOO DON'T!!!!!!!!

It's really sweet that you want a baby. Nearly all girls want babies - it's what we're built for and it's what our instincts tell us to do. The best thing you can do is lay a good foundation and give you and your future family support. The baby you want will come one day. Show this baby how much you love them by planning ahead and giving them an easy life. Best of luck to you.

Answer 20

WOW! how old are you and how stupid are you serously you could die cause you aren't mature enough to hold a baby! and you would want that too how would you feel if your mom was 25 when you were 10 do you know how much that would hurt your reputation especially if people found out that you planned it really serously tremendously think about this!

Answer 21

i think that decision is between you and your bf. i am 17 and have a 10 month old son. it wasn't planned or anything, it just kinda happened, but i wouldn't change it for the world! um, i would say really ask yourself if your bf is the one that you want to have a baby with because it is a really big decision. raising my son is hard but i personally think it's worth it. just knowing that someone looks up to you, watches you, learns from you, and knowing that you created it and it's yours regardless of what anyone else says is a really great feeling. i have been raising my son on my own since the day i told my mom i was pregnant. like ppl say, there are consequences to doing this, but there is also the greatest gift of life right in your hands! :)

Answer 22

Try babysitting babies.-.-

Babies scream.

In the middle of the night.

Would you wake up and take care of it?

Would you have to fall asleep in school because of it?

Who would watch it while your at school?

It's your baby,not your moms.

Hm mm..

What else?

Lets see.

You would be called easy,a w***e,s***k,s**t,etc.

You're not ready to take care of a baby.

I'm sorry.

But teen moms sicken me.

Oh yeah,

Answer 23

Im not going to be rude but im not going to encourage this. I will say to do hard thinking first though because i am 33 and have five kids. Even 20 was a young age for me i got pregnant at 20 and my child is now thirteen. I know about your situation. My sister who is not very nice anymore had my neices who are 15 at age 15. close to your age. She wanted a baby so she talked to my very immature stepdad and he got her a stupid egg implant or something like that. So if your really serious talk to a friend or parent about it if your boyfriend wont listen.

Answer 24

Yes I'm going to judge you. You have no clue what it means to care for a child. You aren't even old enough to get a license to drive yourself to a dam job so that you could support this hypothetical baby! Move out and try taking care of yourself for a year. If you can do it, then think about having a baby. But don't have a baby before you can even have the resources to support yourself.

Answer 25

unfortunately its not a personal choice when you will be creating a new life! It is to big of a situation for you to even deal with at your age!!!  

Answer 26

i dont mean to criticize, but how are you going to support your baby, what are you going to with your baby during school, etc. also maybe your boyfriend doesnt feel ready. i really think that you ought to take things more slowly, and take some time to think about this

Answer 27

They sell babies for you at Wal Mart.

If all else fails go to Planned Parenthood and ask them for one of those "real life" babies and keep him for about a week and then let me know if you still want a baby.

A baby deserves to be born into a family that can not only give him love but also financial stability. Are you telling me you want a baby before you even get your drivers license? That is just wack!

You have so much to live for you are just a baby yourself. You would be doing such a selfish thing to bring a baby into this world with you being only so young. Not only do you not have the knowledge of the world that you will so desperately need but also you have NO way at all to support this baby and to give it the things that you will need in order to provide for it in order for him to have a good life.

You have to have insurance for when you are pregnant and for when you have a baby and that is way beyond astronomical it is so expensive.

I would recommend you talking to some young mother who is about your age and get their take and opinions on it.

You are to young and naive to have a baby, You have the whole world ahead of you! You will have the rest of your life to worry about children once you get your education and get married to the perfect man.  

Answer 28

You're being a little selfish right now...you haven't exactly thought about it that much... when you say you want a baby are you thinking about yourself or the baby? Can you support the baby? Can you offer it a good home and food and everything? Will your parents help you support the baby? Will they be happy that you are pregnant? How do you think your boyfriend feels? You're probably dragging him into something he obviously doesn't want to do. I'm 13 nearly 14 and my mom asks me all these questions and it gets you to think... it's normal for girls our age to want babies but to have them is wrong because we can't care for them the right way. So if you really want to have a baby that bad volunteer at a day care center or babysit for other people or something. By waiting until you're ready, you can give your child the best like you can give it.

Answer 29

How are you going to support the baby

I know you probably don;t want to hear this but What would people at school think

And your boyfriend needs to be for it

And talk to your parents about it

Answer 30

when i was your age i desperately wanted a baby too. it was all i could think about. now im a few years older, a virgin, and enjoying life. if i had've had a baby my life would be over. I'm not even sure if i want kids now. In a few years, this will pass and if you have a baby you will regret not waiting for the rest of your life.

5 years may seem like a long time, but if you just wait that long, you will not regret it.

Good luck, and if you want to talk just email me.

Best wishes xx

Answer 31

do you even know how hard is to raise a baby, not to mention you're still a baby yourself. talking about you want a baby. if you want a baby, you should try those pratice baby dolls they got in nursing class or hospital to test it out. isn't fun or adorable okay. you need some help. 13 and want a baby. what is the world coming to