I'm 13 pregnant and getting married!?

Question

what should i do?!!?!?!

Answer 1

s*x at your age is crazy. You shouldn't be having s*x! I'm 15 and still a virgin, and not having any sexual urges at all. Okay, I'm done preaching.

I understand that you might be panicking and rushing into marriage because of your baby. But, please, do not get married so young. If you want to keep your baby, you'll need help raising him/her, and I don't think a teenage boy will be able to help you. In this situation, a girl needs her mother. Speaking of which, I hope your parents know about this already. If not, tell them. They'll be mad at first, but you're their daughter. They love you, and they'll forgive you and support you. If you don't want to keep the baby, give her away to an adoption agency. I'm not going to preach you on the whole "get an abortion" thing; that's not my business. If you want to get an abortion, that's your own decision. But the baby would be much better off with their own mommy or with a caring family that can take care of them. But don't get married so young. You don't find love at thirteen years old. My best friend got married last year (she's 15 years old) to her boyfriend. They're going through a divorce right now. Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. Just keep him as your boyfriend. I truly wish you good luck and I hope that your pregnancy is smooth.

Answer 2

need a little more info....how old is this pervert who knocked your stupid *** up? and heres a little tidbit of info hun...you cant get legally married until you are of the age of 16 (with parental consent)   hope your mom has fun raising your child! god knows you wont be able to!

Answer 3

first of all never get married just because your preg its a lame *** way for your parents to feel better second of all you need to really decide for your self if this kid is right for you in your life right now, and if not then u need to find out whether the fathers even going to be man enough to look after, raise, and protect it if he/she is born. then third or finally you need to decide your income your living arrangements and definitely your educational future if you and the father don't want to abort for further questions / answers just email me P.S. my gf was pregnant when she was 14 i was 15 her mom wanted to abort she didnt so like a man i stood behined her and because of denial from our family's we moved out together found a place of our own i had two jobs she was able to get living assistance from the govermant we now have a beautiful 3 year old daughter iv graduated and my wifes back in school hoping to grad this year long story short even though its scarry the choices are up to you P.S.S. GOOD LUCK  

Answer 4

WOWZERS!

is this a joke!?!?!?!

how the h**l did you end up like that!?!?! don't you watch the movies?

ok, just... ehhh...

-your parents know. ask them.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Really great idea! Let's compound one problem with another. First off you are no where near ready to be a mother and your child will pay the price. You have nothing to offer this child nor do you have a clue about good parenting and you're not supposed to...you're 13! Then you want to get married on top of that? You won't last. You will be divorced by the time you're 18. Guarenteed your husband will be stepping out on you. And what pedophile is marrying a 13 year old? Give the baby up for adoption so the the baby will have a chance to have a productive happy life. Tell you're fiance the wedding is off so you can do the same.  

Answer 7

if you really don't want this to happen, an option is abortion and not to get married.

i understand if you don't want an abortion for personal reasons, but why get married? you could always have the baby, and the father could help to support the baby without you being married!

i think you should seek professional advice, or talk to a close family member or friend [an adult who has experience in these matters]

good luck

Answer 8

You need counseling and parental guidance in your condition.

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Answer 9

what do you mean do you want to get marry or there forcing you because your pregnan?.girl you have too major problems pregnant and getting married at age 13 wow you dirent enjoy nothing maybe just the moment you got pregnant.

Answer 10

oh you must be in ne of those cult things or do u live in some country where u get married at a young age? cause you must not live in the united states if u getting married....ive heard no law saying that a 13 year old in the U.S. can get married....

Best of luck though=^/

Answer 11

13? Wow. Married? Wow. Probably get the support of a lot of people so you won't feel so bad.

I'm betting you got a little ahead of yourself. You're quite too young. Was this by accident or you were expecting a baby? If you really are NOT at all ready, maybe you can take out the baby and wait a little longer. If you feel too sorry for the baby and wish to take care of your child, as i said, get the support of lotsa people.

Married. I think, since you already are pregnant, maybe you should. But still. Make sure you can handle all of this.

It's gonna be stressing.

Answer 12

Oh my... that is not good.. make sure the man you are marrying is someone you want to marry and raise a child with.. if you're in early pregnancy I recommend you abort it..

Answer 13

What should you do? It should have been what shouldn't you do? To late now, you are on your way to adult hood. There is nothing to do except do the best that you can and be a good mother. You are going to grow up and I bet you thought you knew everything. How old is the father and do you love him, even know you are not really old enough to understand that. I don't mean that in a bad way, but you will learn what real love and such is later on down the road. But now, back in the day be married at 13 was not that big of a deal. But two wrongs do not make a right. Does your parents know? You will have to have consent forms signed before you ever get married. If you don't love him, don't marry him due to the fact you are pregnant. You will only make it harder on you and your child. Good Luck  

Answer 14

If you live in the US.. you aren't legally getting married. As for other countries, I'm not sure how their laws work.

Gooooood luck I guess. But I would think your parents would want what's best for you.. and a child and a husband (even though I don't know you) isn't that. If you cannot have an abortion, it seems like you could consider giving up the baby for adoption, there are many loving willing families out there to care for infants. And the husband thing.. well that's just screwed up on so many levels no matter where you're from. How old is he?

And what do you mean what should you do? Sounds like you already have a plan? Did you come up with this "plan" yourself? Or did someone dictate it to you? Just curious.....

Answer 15

you are still a child yourself !

How can your parents condone this madness!!?

You don't have a clue how to be a mother or a wife!

How old is the father,14?

Answer 16

13 and being pregnant is one tough situation all in its own. Being 13 and married is a whole different one. Sweetheart, you need to focus on your own health and the health of your baby and do what is best for your child right now. The father can be involved and be a huge part of things...even live together if you want....but marriage is hard. Marriage takes work, compromise, a lot of love and forgiveness. Sometimes even with all of that it is doomed. You should seriously consider waiting for marriage. If the love you two feel is real....it will still be there later. Focus on having a healthy child first. Good luck, hun.  

Answer 17

enjoy life, be happy, love deeply, forgive easily, pray often. When you are 26 your kid will be 13 you can go to high school together  

Answer 18

Well, you have control over all of those things, depending on your belief system. I would say that at 13, none of those things are a good idea...but definitely skip on the marriage; it is not necessary and it is hard to commit to someone when you haven't had the chances or life experiences to really know who you are yourself. I'm 23, and I still am changing every day.

Answer 19

keep the baby.  DO NOT go for adoption.  learn to live with what you've done.  conform around and raise the baby.  sure it's gonna be hard but the experience will help you in the long run.  (if you have the right attitude)  DO NOT get married...yet.  (if you are getting pregnant now there's no way you're ready for marriage)  what's meant to be will find it's way.

Answer 20

Personally, I wouldn't get married. (Here coma all the thumbs down). Why make w mistakes when you can just make 1. I dont mean to call your child a mistake, but having a baby at 13 is a mistake. There's got to be somewhere you can go to talk about your options (doctor, planned parenthood, teacher, counselor, etc.) Are your parents willing to raise this baby? Have you thought about adoption? You need to talk to figure this out.

Answer 21

ummm

well you cant really undo the whole pregnant thing

but um idk if you should get married

maybe put the baby for adoption

i mean im pretty sure getting married is  illegal at 13 and its just not right

oh and tell your parents if you already havent

so yah

Answer 22

Babe your very young! But what i can say is stay strong and if you have a relationship with God make sure you keep that relationship on good terms because God can help you get through anything! And you will find that your pregnancy and marriage will go smoother if you have him in it! Stay strong!

Answer 23

Have you talked to your parents? Don't get married. It won't solve anything.

Talk to your parents and planned parenthood or something

Answer 24

Wow I'm sorry. Aren't you already "doing" what you think is best by keeping the baby and getting married?

I mean, if I were 13 and pregnant, I wouldn't be getting married and I wouldn't raise the child. I'd probably do an open adoption and leave myself time to be a kid. I wouldn't be ready, but it's your body and it's your baby...

What do you mean "what should I do?"...

P.S. In most countries, and in most US states... You need permission to get married that young. Written permission. From your parents.

Answer 25

Don't get married. You r way too young. Your Mom might be willing to help you raise the child. You still need to be allowed to live your life and do the going out stuff. Education is very important if you want a reasonable job. You are having to grow up real fast.  

Answer 26

Sorry to say this, but there goes your life! you'll be missing out on hanging out with your friends. your prom, possibly graduating on stage,partying,clubbing etc. I got married and was pregnant at 17 and i missed out on all that good stuff. Funny how we think we know what we're doing at the time. I suggest strongly not to get married till you're at least 18. Find out what kind of guy he really is. This will save you from filing for divorce in a year or two. Good luck with your pregnancy.

Answer 27

Let me guess... praise Allah huh?

Where on earth can a 13 year old get married?! If you're in a normal country go ahead and tell the police about the pedophile. If not well, that sucks unless your parents are against it.

Answer 28

you should pray first off.

and I dont think getting married is the answer.

Im 19 and pregnant and I dont want to be married until were both sure of what we want, a baby isnt a reason to get married unless you really love that person.

talk to your parents more, they should be able to help you.

Answer 29

Ok..well before I answered this I took a look at other peoples answers. I guess they don't understand. They are ignorant because they are not in your position. They wouldn't even think that way if it was someone in their family or even themselves.

Everybody makes mistakes. And I bet you feel absolutely terrible now because everyone is telling you that you have ruined your life. What has happened has meant to be.

You're 13. Very Young. Very Innocent. In your past you did something stupid. Everybody does something stupid when they are young. Get Drunk, do drugs, have s*x, vandalize, etc. It happens and everyone who has answered this has probably done at least one of those things. It's life.

Ok, You got pregnant. Are you sure you want to get married with this boy? Do you love him? Would you spend the rest of your life with him? I understand that you are under a lot of pressure, but getting married is a big step and just because you're pregnant doesn't mean should do this. You don't want to end up getting in a situation with someone that you aren't sure about.

I feel for you, I really do. And I understand how much pressure your under.

I'll try to give you some steps on making things more comfortable.

*Talk to your Family

Come closer to your family. If they truly love you they will get you through this. You need to talk to them and make them understand that what you did is in the past and that having this baby is starting a whole new life and that you want them to be there with you all the way.

*Talk to your boyfriend/fiance.

   You need to tell him everything. All your feelings. Everything. And you need to get his insite on stuff to. He will need to support you and your baby and if he can't do that then you need to find a better resolution.

*Figure out School.

   Now that you will be having a baby, how will you fit school in. Do not drop out. You need to get a job or have your boyfriend get a job. Get someone to watch your baby. The last thing you want to do is drop out. People expect you to just give up because you made a mistake. Show them that your baby wasn't a mistake, he was a destiny and that you can still fulfill your dreams no matter what.

Please try to do you're best

Good Luck and I will pray for you!

PS. I would love to get details on everything so if you want please email me ASAP. I can try to help more if you give more insite.

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Answer 30

In a question you deleted you called your baby a baybay. Do you really think keeping this baby is wise, when you cant talk like a grownup? And marriage at 13? Honey, this is why a 13 year old should NOT have s*x!!!

Answer 31

Well first you should consider alot of things....are you being forced to get married cause you got pregant? Or was the pregancy planned? Do you love the guy your marrying or are you marrying each other cause you guys got pregant?

if you are being forced to marry you should probably not do it cause you won't be happy. If the pregancy is planned then go ahead and marry him and things will work out, read the books on pregancy and what your about to go through. If you are marrying each other cause you guys got pregant it might not be good cause it might get bad when the kid is born. It all depends on you really. Think about it.