I'm 14, Am I depressed ? ? ? ?

Question

Hey... Am i ' depressed '

For as long as i can remember my mum beat me, physically and emotionally. This continued until just before my 8th birthday where she finally came clean to an affair and left me, my dad and brother to go be with her new man (still bitter about that). Throughout this bleak time my mum adored my brother and he wood only get the occasionally hit, she hated me, she would hit, shout and at one point she tried to kill me. Obviously this has always affected me. But ever since she left I have seen her most weekends and acted like a ‘ Happy family ’ until 16th august 2007 when I finally confronted my mum about this, and guess what, she denied everything! It tore me apart that my mum would do something like that and then lie about it. My mum and dad don’t talk at all, ever, and all my mum could do was blame my dad for given her depression and made him out to be such a bad person, the one person I trusted and believed, now I suddenly doubted him. It took a few months to start seeing my mum again after this and the first time I saw her we had an argument and I ended up going home early, I was torn apart again! Ever since my mum left I’ve been though all the emotions, pain, hurt , denial of her doing anything wrong but now it just feels like I’m depressed and has for a long time.

Back in January I did try to seriously kill myself and I go to sleep every night wishing that I don’t wake up and when I do, it’s a great disappointment. Not a single day that goes by that I don’t think about what happened and not a single day that it doesn’t affect me in some way. I just feel lifeless and have lost real interest in things I used to really enjoy, I just cant be bothered. I get angry easily and if I cant do something I just break down in tears. I mean I’m not like this every day, all day. But the majority of the time, I am!

I’ve lost friends though this, my best friend and I used to be really close and now I dread being around her, I don’t want to be near anyone.

I don’t ever see myself moving on from this point or ‘getting over’ my past, it only a dream to me that can NEVER be made a reality.

I cant tell my dad how I am feeling as I can’t bare to see him hurt and he doesn’t understand fully how I am feeling whether he doesn’t want to admit to it being his wife, my mum that beat me, I don’t know.

But am I depressed or is this just a ‘ faze ’ I am going though??

Answer 1

No you are not depressed, as in a psychological issue. But you are definitely heading there because this is where it starts. This is not a phase.

It could be considered post-traumatic stress disorder. You can't let go on how your mother hurt and betrayed you, you have every right to be hurt. Anybody and everybody would be hurt if put in the same situation.

You are really lucky you have a sort of self awareness because this is the best age to deal with it and get it out of your way forever. I say seek some professional help and therapy.

Emotional and especially physical abuse leaves people really messed up in the head. Many people never seek help in going through the pain, and grow up to be depressed and angry at everyone. The people who do seek help, do so in their 20s. You are 14, so get help, and by the time you are 16/17 this will all be behind you forever and you can enjoy life.

Maybe when you are a little older and stable, you can confront your mom again with a better understanding of things and you can show her that even if she hurt you, you got through it.

Answer 2

wow. i'm really sorry everything has happened to you. i wouldn't say depressed, sounds like you're just going through a very rough time. you should find someone, a professional, to talk to and help you through all this.

again, i'm so sorry, and good luck

Answer 3

i am pretty sure this is not a phase. try to see a professional counselor  

Answer 4

your mother has been abusing you and you may want to go talk to a psychologist. You need a way to get over this and obviously its not going to work by confronting your mother. I know its your mom, but technically you can go to the police and have her arrested. I know thats not something you would do to a parent for a million reasons. Thats why you are going to have to solve the problem YOU have rather then trying to make your mother see she was wrong.

I feel sorry for you but you are abled to get over this, if only you get some professional help.

Answer 5

i wouldn't say your depressed.... many kids have this issue sometime in their life.

and if you are even able to question your sanity & whether you are depressed or not, certainly you aren't.

Answer 6

Go talk to a professional.

I am very sorry about everything that has happened to you.

Answer 7

girl, that is most definitely depression, you really need to get help, you attempted suicide, that is where you can be sure you are depressed, you may think that you can't tell your dad, but you would be surprised on how understanding he could be, my one friend was the same exact way, her parents discovered the hard way, they found her cutting, she thought they wouldn't understand, they were immensely understanding, your father would be the same way, please talk to him about it, and, if you want someone to talk to, feel free to contact me on IM or email

Answer 8

It seems as though you are depressed. Being as though you dont want to talk to your dad about your feelings, no kid wants to. Its a hotline i guess and one of my friends called and said it made her feel better to let someone know whats going on in her life and it helped her.

call it: 1-630-482-9696

Answer 9

u should c a counselor...i dnt think its a faze

Answer 10

yeah your depressed. it doesn't matter how old you are. you've been through alot for someone who is only 14 but you have every reson to be sad about it. see a doctor if you can and maybe they can help you or prescribe you some medicine to help get you through

Answer 11

First of all...I am so sorry for all of the pain your mom has caused you. Obviously you are depressed (I would be too if I was in your situation). You need to find some help. Maybe give talking to your dad a try? If that is not an option, I suggest finding a therapist or a real good friend that you can vent to. Maybe start taking some anti-depressants.

Killing yourself is never the answer. I have lost a lot of family through the years, and suicide is one of the hardest ways to lose a loved one. I still have pictures in my head of my uncle who commited suicide and it is so hard to deal with. Find someone, anyone to talk to.

I would be more then glad to be a friend to you. If you ever want to chat about anything feel free to message or email me. [e-mail]

I hope that this answers your question. Stay strong and please seek some help for your depression.

Answer 12

hi, i'm sorry and saed for the emotional and physical pain you've been put through. i really hope you get this resolved. can i first suggest that u pray to god about this whole affiar. put your life in his hands completely and i promise you'll be better. 14 is no age to die or feel like this. so from the bottom of my heart. i will pary for you.

go to a local church and ask for prayer.

i also want u to stay strong. i know that it must be hard for you to stay like this but believe me, people who commit sucide don't go to heaven.

i don't think you're really depressed and frankly that's not the important question u should be asking. clear your mind and get out. but if you need any other help. talk to me...